I'm married to the one and only love in my life, so I'm not sure how I'd feel if I was in that position. I suppose it'd depend on the reason for the original breakup, and whether I was the dumper or the dumpee. Being older and wiser going into a relationship the second time around would have to help, though.
I recently started chatting to my first ever boyfriend from 16 years ago, I would love to fuck him again, now that we both know what we're doing (assuming that he does) lol.
He's in japan though haha! and if I remember correctly he was quite a selfish lover, though he was young so I forgive him :0)
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No, Orion I dont. Like I said before, there is a reason they are in the past. People do change, but once you get a good look at what they are like, and why you broke up to begin with reason is going to reign over wonder.
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SO basically all men are emotional infants with no hope of ever becoming better than they are. Loss can make people look as themselves and realize what they are doing wrong. I don't say this is the case for everyone but I know a few people who completely changed their lives after losing someone. They too never got back those they lost but they changed a great deal for the better.
I guess it all goes back to you don't know what you have until it is lost, but it seems in the eye's of most women you have to do it right the first time or never.
Quote by OrionTat SO basically all men are emotional infants with no hope of ever becoming better than they are. Loss can make people look as themselves and realize what they are doing wrong. I don't say this is the case for everyone but I know a few people who completely changed their lives after losing someone. They too never got back those they lost but they changed a great deal for the better.
I guess it all goes back to you don't know what you have until it is lost, but it seems in the eye's of most women you have to do it right the first time or never.
I don't agree with that. I think that our relationships help us grow to become who we are and we move on. When we move on from a relationship it's as if we're regressing. Even if both people have grown, there are still old patterns and expectations and those keep us back. Sorry - just my opinion.
Let me ask you this Orion, what about physical abuse? Is that not reason enough to say the past is the past? I was physically abused in my past relationship, and there is NO WAY IN HELL I would give him another chance.
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hey, my ex wouldn't even have sex with me (very touchy subject his beliefs......NOT mine lol relationship didnt last very long lol) so why would i want to with him...now i think of it urghhhhh
lol so thats a no
OK sorry for your relationship pixie. I wasn't suggesting that anyone go into a dangerous abusive relationship. What I was suggesting is that if a guy had really grown and changed from what he was like during the last relationship if he would ever warrant a second chance. He has just as much a chance to blow it again but it seems there are no such things as second chances.
The good thing is I think with all this perspective I have a story Idea brewing.
I approached this subject with one of my stories, but it was pure fiction. The characters were made to "fit". I had to create a scenario that wasn't just another "two people met and fucked".
This is all deep psychology and there are no easy, quick answers.
That was such a sweet answer, Tech. Thank you, baby.
I feel exactly the same way and you already know that.
I agree Orion and Sweet. I guess I can't really say until a situation like that comes up. I am all about being in the moment and deciding at that time. I do believe people can change but I also believe that doesn't mean you have to get back together because of it.
My first husband and I were not on speaking terms for about 12 years (during the time he was married to his second wife who was insanely jealous of me... God only knows why). Then this past year he reached out to me to talk. We had many long conversations where there were no recriminations, only heart-felt explanations of where we had both been emotionally when our marriage collapsed. Afterward we hooked up 'for old times sake' but there wasn't anything other to it than that...
Maybe this wasn't the best example since it didn't lead anywhere. Hmmm.