maybe some of you have read my posts before, (though I always posted in ask the guys): Posts follow the same unfortunate trend: concerns same friend same pain. Do the current details matter much?, I have been so so low over this so despondent, I have to stop the relationship, but I still feel so much in my heart, but I give and give and give and get sometimes something, often just crumbs back or nothing or too much selfishness disguised as "this is who I am your choice" kind of response. My heart is breaking too often too much, how do I stop? Obviously I am having trouble with the cold turkey method. Too low self esteem as well.
That is sad. Dear, please help yourself first and get away. Maybe this is what your friend needs too. You dont have to endure being your friends emotional trash bin. This doesnt help your self esteem as well. Please try building your self-esteem too, surround yourself with people who genuinely cares for you and lift you up, and do activities that you love doing and probably you excel in. I hope you give more details too but I really truly hope you do yourself a favor and try becoming a better you instead (because as I can see your relationship with this person is damaging you ), and then when you are okay already, try helping this friend out if you still want to (I think this is difficult though because.. well, your friend can only truly change if he/she truly wants to.) All the best for both of you guys.
Thank you, you are absolutely correct. We both need to heal, we are both lost souls too. But it takes a different effect on me, he is used to a lot of solitude, I am not.
There is nothing I need to to do to get away except say goodbye, He is giving me some joy and happiness when I feel I am not being ignored or shut out, I know deep down the problem comes from myself. My friend cannot change that, but he could be a little more giving. So into him that all he has to do is talk to me, makes me smile, he picks me up, but probably deep down it's for the wrong reasons. So far unable to move in the direction of being happy because of who I am, thanks for replying.
You stop because you have some self esteem! No one who cared about you would hurt you like this. They would cherish you and love you and hate to see you hurting. Walk away. This person is toxic.
Self esteem? how do you define that when happiness is at stake or at least a temporary form. thanks for replying
