Just a question for the girls out there who are in to pegging their husbands/boyfriends - if your partner suggested it, how did you respond? If you were unsure about it, how did he talk you in to trying it? I'm after advice with this part. I have read that a lot of women are originally hesitant about it, but once they try it the feeling of power they get over their partner is a real turn-on for them. I really want my wife to try this but she refuses to even contemplate it, I think she believes that it makes me less of a man - she likes a manly man in her own words. Not sure if she thinks it means I'm bi or what. But the thing is that she has gay friends and says there is nothing wrong with their lifestyle, but the thought of her using a strap-on on me is just wrong :-(
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Nerdzilla
I think pegging is hot. Most men I know, don't. Lame.
If my partner suggested it, then he better be down with kink. Because I doubt I could just vanilla, then peg occasionally. Gotta offer me freedom to explore, with the love and security I crave from a signifiant other.
Real talk, though, in answer to your post: our sexualities and fantasies may not always mix with that of those we love. But maybe find a story or a video or whatever she likes, to depict characters pegging that she might find appealing. Sometimes the experience in stories/film allows the barriers in the minds to be dropped and the situation more understood and a realm to open. It can less scary if you experience it from someone else's point of view first.
If my partner suggested it, then he better be down with kink. Because I doubt I could just vanilla, then peg occasionally. Gotta offer me freedom to explore, with the love and security I crave from a signifiant other.
Real talk, though, in answer to your post: our sexualities and fantasies may not always mix with that of those we love. But maybe find a story or a video or whatever she likes, to depict characters pegging that she might find appealing. Sometimes the experience in stories/film allows the barriers in the minds to be dropped and the situation more understood and a realm to open. It can less scary if you experience it from someone else's point of view first.
You can only overcome her objections by discussing it. If then she is still not comfortable , then perhaps you should leave it. To try and force something on an unwilling partner is wrong and they will only resent it .
A good tip is to do a sex survey on each other say after every 6 months and then compare answers to establish new boundaries . It just keeps the excitement going especially in marriage in my case when you are with just one partner.
A good tip is to do a sex survey on each other say after every 6 months and then compare answers to establish new boundaries . It just keeps the excitement going especially in marriage in my case when you are with just one partner.
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I think pegging is hot. Most men I know, don't. Lame.
If my partner suggested it, then he better be down with kink. Because I doubt I could just vanilla, then peg occasionally. Gotta offer me freedom to explore, with the love and security I crave from a signifiant other.
Real talk, though, in answer to your post: our sexualities and fantasies may not always mix with that of those we love. But maybe find a story or a video or whatever she likes, to depict characters pegging that she might find appealing. Sometimes the experience in stories/film allows the barriers in the minds to be dropped and the situation more understood and a realm to open. It can less scary if you experience it from someone else's point of view first.
I have spoken on occasions about it but with little success. The funny thing is that she will say things like "Yeh, you'd love that up your arse wouldn't you!" when things come up in general conversation about things. And over the years she has gradually become more aggressive, for want of a better word, when we are having sex - often grabbing my arse cheeks and pulling me in to her, becoming more verbal etc.
Once, many years ago she even tied me up, blindfolded and teased me for a good 1/2 hr. She played with my cock, squeezed my balls but the best thing was that she also teased the hell out of my arse! She used her fingers to loosen everything up and then inserted ice in to, after rubbing it all over my balls and cock. She then wanked me off until I came everywhere. She really seemed to get off on the domination side of this, but sadly it was a one-off occurrence, even though I have dropped hints ever since.
Part of my feelings in wanting to be pegged are the feeling of losing all control myself, being treated like I am just a piece of meat for her enjoyment. I want to feel what it feels like for her when she is being fucked. My whole working life is being in control and giving orders, I want to feel the opposite of this sometimes. From my research, this seems to be the same feeling that a lot of men feel about why they want to be pegged. At the moment I am stuck with using a doldo or strap-on on myself when she is not at home, it feels good but I assume nowhere as good as someone actually thrusting in to me :-( I will take your advice and try and find videos or stories that I hopefully will talk her in to watching or reading with the chance she might change her mind.
Nerdzilla
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I will take your advice and try and find videos or stories that I hopefully will talk her in to watching or reading with the chance she might change her mind.
Make sure you find one you think she'd enjoy because of what you know of her tastes, not just your own fantasy. This is about her as much as it's about you.
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In my case a variety of women used toys in my ass before I was pegged. See if she enjoys sliding a vibrator in. Also, you did not say if she enjoys her ass being stimulated or penetrated. Its a step towards actual pegging if she will try either.
Then there was the approach of a friends ex husband. She came home from work and found him in the bed with a newly purchased strap on, & orders to put it on a fuck him. As she put it: "I was confused", but she did and had a orgasm the first time she used it on him. Not sure if the surprise demand will work for you, but its a option.
I met that lady some years later. She'd developed a taste for joining several bi males for group sex. In the video she showed me she was just being one of the boys. Joining in fucking a guy.
Then there was the approach of a friends ex husband. She came home from work and found him in the bed with a newly purchased strap on, & orders to put it on a fuck him. As she put it: "I was confused", but she did and had a orgasm the first time she used it on him. Not sure if the surprise demand will work for you, but its a option.
I met that lady some years later. She'd developed a taste for joining several bi males for group sex. In the video she showed me she was just being one of the boys. Joining in fucking a guy.
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In my case a variety of women used toys in my ass before I was pegged. See if she enjoys sliding a vibrator in. Also, you did not say if she enjoys her ass being stimulated or penetrated. Its a step towards actual pegging if she will try either.
Then there was the approach of a friends ex husband. She came home from work and found him in the bed with a newly purchased strap on, & orders to put it on a fuck him. As she put it: "I was confused", but she did and had a orgasm the first time she used it on him. Not sure if the surprise demand will work for you, but its a option.
I met that lady some years later. She'd developed a taste for joining several bi males for group sex. In the video she showed me she was just being one of the boys. Joining in fucking a guy.
She does enjoy me playing with her arse, though she won't actually voice this thought. I've never really had the urge to fuck someone in the arse, but if the opportunity was offered I would never had said no. One night I was spooning my wife, one thing led to another and next thing I was fucking her arse. She never asked me to do it so it all just happened naturally which was the best thing all round. She got off on it, and I can say I had never felt anything like it before - we were both anal virgins in that sense
From that time onwards it was maybe a once a year thing for a few years, but then it just stopped. Often, when I am going down on her I will rim her and put my tongue in her arse, which she really, really gets off on. When I move on to fingering her I will then penetrate her arse with my finger as well. She orgasms so strong when this happens. So she definitely knows how much pleasure is involved in anal play, and this is why I find it hard to understand her stance on returning the favour to me :-( I refuse to push someone to do something just because I want it, but the double standard is hard to deal with. In my mind it isn't worth fighting over but it does cause deep seated resentment.
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... I refuse to push someone to do something just because I want it, but the double standard is hard to deal with. In my mind it isn't worth fighting over but it does cause deep seated resentment.
Might think of how to ask without 'pushing'.
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