Hey, Im not a lady, but have shared my wife. What I think might work is to talk a little about his fantasies. usually two women, I'm guessing. Then once youre comfortable, bring up one where youre getting it on with a guy while he is with some woman.
When youre out, point out hot women, only, then the occassional man. Alternate threeway fantasies, then pick a guy who you want, incorporate him into the fantasy, then go crazy having sex with hubby. You will train him to want a threesome with a guy. Good luck
I have been lucky enough to be the man sharing the wife. Her hubby really got into it, and HE contacted me.
yes how does one do this hahaha :P
its been a fantasy of mine toooo haha and yes he wants 2 chicks i sooo dont lol :P
Yes im the small bitchy chick in the corner, set me off and man do you know about it !!!
Well you can always try like mine did. Bring up the idea of swapping with an attractive couple, then when things are set up "the other wife chickens out". Guilt your husband into letting you have/try this. Oh just don't let "your" husband find out the other wife never knew anything, and get caught texting the husband setting up a get together while your hubby is out of town for work.
Just be clear and upfront about it. if You want something he doesen't, the very least you can do is to give in to something that he wants that you don't... say ok, your MFM 3some in exchange his FMF 3some with some hot random teen slut that you seduce and bring over as offering...hahah (im getting carried away)....
Nevertheless, set the rules straight. At least the first time it should be with someone you DONT know and probably never see again (Most gentelmen understand how to play "third", but there are some assholes that will try to start an affair with you and exclude your hubby: Dont give in, and let your man handle them. In fact, have your man be the only contact with potential "thirds", your only input should be approval of the guy based on atractiveness. The message to your hubby should be "Do this for me, please me, trust me"
Don't let the copy-machine guy at work, or big flirty hunk from the gym (both of which you probably know beforehand) show up as candidates for third player.
make it interesting for him; and do it WITH him, not inspite of him. Have Fun together, the second time around should go much smoother if you two had fun...
before you know it, you'll be attending swinger community parties and stuff
I'm divorced but if I was married and had the opportunity I think I would enjoy being shared
A lot of men have a fantasy about two women together, because it suits THEIR fantasy to allow it to happen, in hopes they become the yummy center of your threesome sandwich with another woman, but a lot of men have issues with sharing a bed (or their woman) with another man. It's threatening to them, because "OMG what if his penis is bigger than mine?!" A lot of men will be afraid if they let another man near their woman, she will run off and leave him.
I guess is it depends on if you want to be with other women or men. I imagine he would be a lot more receptive to an extra female bed partner than a male one. Just remember, if you decide to go poly and have an open relationship, he may start sleeping with other women. If you can't handle that, don't expect him to be able to handle you sleeping with other men. Regardless of the dynamic, there should be a lot of open and frank discussions before anything is acted upon.
Try to indulge him into swinging first
then he will dance to your tune