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how soon is to soon to ask for anal?
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Quote by LMAO
My experience is, start with the pinky finger, then work your way up.
If you have run out of fingers, use your dick dude!
I wouldn't even bring it up the first couple of times you have sex. It's better to build some trust first, unless your lucky enough that she asks for it. When you've gotten to the point where your completly comfortable with each other, offer to massage her back. Then pay attention to her ass as described above. If she's willing to let you finger her ass, you've got the opening you need to ask her if she has ever tried it or would like to. Most likely, if she is against the idea, she's not going to let you get your finger in their anyway.
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Quote by LMAO
My experience is, start with the pinky finger, then work your way up.
If you have run out of fingers, use your dick dude!
LOL
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The conversation should go something like this :
He : "So how do you like being fucked in the ass?"
She : "Oh, it's ok I guess."
He : "Can you just imagine the full seven inches of my rock hard cock inside you?"
She : Hmmmmmm.............(plays with her drinking glass)
He : "Then I'll give you a nice hot Creamy Pie to take home."
She : "What's a creamy pie?"
He : "Sorry, what did you say your name was again."
He : "So how do you like being fucked in the ass?"
She : "Oh, it's ok I guess."
He : "Can you just imagine the full seven inches of my rock hard cock inside you?"
She : Hmmmmmm.............(plays with her drinking glass)
He : "Then I'll give you a nice hot Creamy Pie to take home."
She : "What's a creamy pie?"
He : "Sorry, what did you say your name was again."
Internet Sensation
^^ what he said.
Start slow, feel the area, read the other threads on the topic.
Start slow, feel the area, read the other threads on the topic.
Quote by Milik_The_Red
I wouldn't even bring it up the first couple of times you have sex. It's better to build some trust first, unless your lucky enough that she asks for it. When you've gotten to the point where your completly comfortable with each other, offer to massage her back. Then pay attention to her ass as described above. If she's willing to let you finger her ass, you've got the opening you need to ask her if she has ever tried it or would like to. Most likely, if she is against the idea, she's not going to let you get your finger in their anyway.
I agree with Milik. The only other suggestion is to mention to her that you enjoy giving anal and see what her reaction is... maybe after the second time of normal intercourse.
Quote by LMAO
My experience is, start with the pinky finger, then work your way up.
If you have run out of fingers, use your dick dude!
What happens when you run out of dicks?
Quote by Piquet
The conversation should go something like this :
He : "So how do you like being fucked in the ass?"
She : "Oh, it's ok I guess."
He : "Can you just imagine the full seven inches of my rock hard cock inside you?"
She : Hmmmmmm.............(plays with her drinking glass)
He : "Then I'll give you a nice hot Creamy Pie to take home."
She : "What's a creamy pie?"
He : "Sorry, what did you say your name was again."
Internet Philosopher
My experiance is that the first time you bring it up, she is going to worry about how much it hurts. This is true even among those who have tried it a couple of times. The point is you need to show her you've got some self control. If she thinks your going to tear her up, she is never going to relax enough to enjoy it, even if she does let you try.
Internet Sensation
That's a good point Milik.
-Lmao-
If you werent a dick head, you're gonna look like one when you're done.
-Lmao-
If you werent a dick head, you're gonna look like one when you're done.
Alpha Blonde
With the partners I have done anal with, nobody has ever asked me ahead of time "hey, what are your feelings about anal".... not even for the first time I tried it (with my second sexual partner ever).
It's just something that has evolved during sex.
I do prefer it this way, because I think that organizing things ahead of time as though this will be a momentous event can cause feelings of fear/anxiety well before anything happens, and it may affect a woman's ability to relax and enjoy it.
I have several girlfriends who have been 'trying' to have anal for years via pre-organized "let's try anal nights" with their hubbies. So far they have had no luck despite some truly bizarre/creative attempts. And frankly I am not surprised... I think they are psychologically panicking about it before it even happens.
When I have done it, I have been super turned on, in the moment, nothing pre-planned... and when I feel his tongue over my ass, I know what's on the menu, and when I am being pleasured and aroused, I am as excited about it as he is.
So... I don't think it's ever 'too soon'... I have done it during an initial sexual encounter with some partners. But I've never talked about it beforehand.
It's just something that has evolved during sex.
I do prefer it this way, because I think that organizing things ahead of time as though this will be a momentous event can cause feelings of fear/anxiety well before anything happens, and it may affect a woman's ability to relax and enjoy it.
I have several girlfriends who have been 'trying' to have anal for years via pre-organized "let's try anal nights" with their hubbies. So far they have had no luck despite some truly bizarre/creative attempts. And frankly I am not surprised... I think they are psychologically panicking about it before it even happens.
When I have done it, I have been super turned on, in the moment, nothing pre-planned... and when I feel his tongue over my ass, I know what's on the menu, and when I am being pleasured and aroused, I am as excited about it as he is.
So... I don't think it's ever 'too soon'... I have done it during an initial sexual encounter with some partners. But I've never talked about it beforehand.
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I'm with Dancing_Doll on this. I don't see sex as something that should be planned ahead of time. Every part of the sexual experience should be spontaneous.....yet quite a lot of people view it as just another event that they need to fit into their schedule. For me, trying to "schedule" or pre-plan any part of sex just ruins the entire thing for me.
I mean, in my opinion, this question is just as ridiculous as asking when is it too early to have sex with someone. You can't plan sex out. You just have to let nature run its course and see what happens.
I mean, in my opinion, this question is just as ridiculous as asking when is it too early to have sex with someone. You can't plan sex out. You just have to let nature run its course and see what happens.
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if you know how to do oral at all then it will be a natural introduction to probing and arousal.. I'm sure it will come up between the whispers and not be a big negotiation to allow some exploration.. at least it hasn't been so far..
Artistic Tart
Seriously guys, unless you are paying for it- don't just come right out and ask- nothing kills the damn mood like a conversation that asks the question-"are you ready for me to assfuck you or should we stick to regular a few more times?"
Lick, caress, probe- go with the flow, let the chemistry carry you wherever it leads. There is plenty of chance to pick up on the hints either way that will tell you whether or not she is game for it. Then whether it happens or not, have the discussion afterward. You can be respectful without it all being said out loud.
Lick, caress, probe- go with the flow, let the chemistry carry you wherever it leads. There is plenty of chance to pick up on the hints either way that will tell you whether or not she is game for it. Then whether it happens or not, have the discussion afterward. You can be respectful without it all being said out loud.
Wild at Heart
Put an Anal porn DVD (or leave it on an anal porn video online) in your player then ask the girl your interested in entering to go put a movie in. She'll discover you like anal and the seed will be planted in her head. Play it off like it's no big deal. I find that once a girl knows you're into it she'll usually offer anal to you or with time get real curious about trying it. Just don't do anything stupid like going too fast the first time so she'll let you do it again and again.
Internet Philosopher
Another point is to be ready for it. Make sure you have the proper lube available and even if you normally ride bareback, a condom is a good idea for several reasons. Anal sex definatly fits into the advance class so be ready when and be respectful when the moment arrives.
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Quote by Milik_The_Red
have the proper lube available and even if you normally ride bareback, a condom is a good idea for several reasons.
glad this didn't get left unsaid!
Ok, here's a guy chiming in on this topic....I never asked for anal sex. But, when I was asked, it was usually "have I ever done it." I saw it as a signal of interest and we slowly moved into it. Usually starting with a moist tease over the pucker, then a well lubed finger with her juices. I let her guide my finger depth and if she relaxes and enjoys it, we move further into it. But, I've always waited for her to bring it up. Active Ink Slinger
Ok, what about this for a likely scenario :
SHE : "When do you finish work?"
HE : "We close at 10 m'am."
SHE : "Ok, I'll come and get you, we'll go back to my place and you can take my sweet little tushie's temperature with that great big, double beef thermometer or yours."
HE : "Ok, but now please drive down to the next window and pick up your burger and fries."
SHE : "See you at 10......Grrrrrrrrrrrr."
SHE : "When do you finish work?"
HE : "We close at 10 m'am."
SHE : "Ok, I'll come and get you, we'll go back to my place and you can take my sweet little tushie's temperature with that great big, double beef thermometer or yours."
HE : "Ok, but now please drive down to the next window and pick up your burger and fries."
SHE : "See you at 10......Grrrrrrrrrrrr."
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If i'm in the mood for it, I'll let him know by responding favorably to any touch on my bottom. Most guys get the idea quickly enough. It really doesn't matter if its our first time or not. If I didn't like him, we wouldn't be in bed together anyway.
I can't ever imagine saying, hey do me there please. That just would just be wrong.
I can't ever imagine saying, hey do me there please. That just would just be wrong.
It varies, but usually I try a little ass play and gauge the reaction or bring it up subtly and go from there. Some women don't dig it....and I'm cool with that. I won't enjoy it if the don't enjoy it.
I have a bud who is a carnivorous ass whore with the ladies....he is like a real life Rocco Siffredi. He is pushy and forward enough that he gets that ass on 90% of women and gets it quickly. He has his own method....the A.M.P. Method.
Ass then mouth and then pussy. He figures if you conquer the ass first, it's all easy from there. I have verified this with some of the women he has had sex with and they don't know why they did it, but they did.
I have a bud who is a carnivorous ass whore with the ladies....he is like a real life Rocco Siffredi. He is pushy and forward enough that he gets that ass on 90% of women and gets it quickly. He has his own method....the A.M.P. Method.
Ass then mouth and then pussy. He figures if you conquer the ass first, it's all easy from there. I have verified this with some of the women he has had sex with and they don't know why they did it, but they did.
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Quote by LadyX
Seriously guys, unless you are paying for it- don't just come right out and ask- nothing kills the damn mood like a conversation that asks the question-"are you ready for me to assfuck you or should we stick to regular a few more times?"
Lick, caress, probe- go with the flow, let the chemistry carry you wherever it leads. There is plenty of chance to pick up on the hints either way that will tell you whether or not she is game for it. Then whether it happens or not, have the discussion afterward. You can be respectful without it all being said out loud.
I agree with this. Sex is about exploring and pleasing. Anything done should just progress naturally. If it isn't good for her, she'll let you know. If it is good, keep exploring!
Seems like some one said "Hey Babe how would you like to be Fucked in the Ass?" Well what a mood breaker that would be.
Even for a woman who really enjoys Anal, that is not likely to achieve what you are desiring. A few kisses and a few licks and some tongue pleasure will soon tell your if this opening is available.
But if you must ask how about just after you have given her a beautiful series of orgasms and you are holding her and making her feel she is the most loved woman on earth, well I could not say no to any thing you would ask!
Even for a woman who really enjoys Anal, that is not likely to achieve what you are desiring. A few kisses and a few licks and some tongue pleasure will soon tell your if this opening is available.
But if you must ask how about just after you have given her a beautiful series of orgasms and you are holding her and making her feel she is the most loved woman on earth, well I could not say no to any thing you would ask!
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All depends on the woman. Some find it a long awaited fantasy, others find it an imminent reality, and a lot find it just utterly revolting. It all depends on the woman. It's her ass anyways. 
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Quote by inyourass
a question for the girls
how soon is to soon to ask for anal?
Wait until my 90th birthday, m'kay? Thx!
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Some great and funny responses ladies! It's been my experience if you tongue and gently play in the area with your fingers and slowly work one in then maybe another that it might just happen but it depends on the girl. Others don't seem to mind the carressing, squeezing and gentle play of their butt, but don't want a dick in it! lol! While I've also had a few that really just enjoy getting it in the butt, I don't think that's the norm! Of course, this is from a man's point of view, so probably not much credence in my response!