I'm 5 foot 1 and I do like a man to be taller than me. I know this sounds to trivial but it seems to be one of those things I do when I look at men. It is not something my brain enagages in its a subconcious thing to me.
I think it is all about personal choice really. There are many tall women that have to date shorter men. Don't shout at me ok, but can't some shorter men be a bit more insecure and more agressive than their taller mates, they have to be like the little jack russel terrier to get heared, where as a taller man does not need his ego polishing he is already tall, people notice him and he does not have to shout to get an ale in at the bar, he gets noticed more.
Now I wouldn't want to date a man any shorter than 5 foot 5inches, that seems to be my limit on height, but my limit of tallness of dating men is about 6foot any taller than than and I'm needing to carry a box to kiss him good night ha ha. It is a nice protective thing when a tall man hugs you good night.
I'm 6'3" so I should be getting way more chicks than I am according to some of the girls that posted before me!
I can totally believe short guys are discriminated against for years it had totally pissed me off that every really tall guy I see is with a really short woman. I'm talking guys 6'2"+ always with girls 5'5'- I'm 5'11" and have always ended up with men my same height or slightly shorter. A guy in a club asked me to dance once and when he stood up I was about a foot taller than him. I was wearing 3" heels at the time so that made me 6'2" and he must have been your friends size Damon. My tits were right in his face and we got plenty of stairs but I'm never one to give a fuck what anybody thinks and danced with him anyway. He even said when he stood up and I saw how short he was it was OK if I didn't want to dance. I just smiled, grabbed his hand and said come on short stuff we're dancing and gave him some nice cleavage in the face! lol This was in the late 80's and I happened to be wearing a tube top. Hope your buddy finds a nice girl and starts going out with you and the guys again that's sad.
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Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! Generally I would like to say no.. but seeing as i'm only 5 feet tall I think anything shorter would be a little too short for me.. and I have noticed that I do tend to be more attracted to taller men...
Its a deal breaker for me. Same question could go for men. How many men would like to date a chick thats taller than themselves.
I am pretty active on the social scene in the city I live in, and I have to stick up for DamonX and say that he’s pretty accurate in terms of general opinion and outlook. Women prefer men who are taller than they are. I can’t think of any girl that would say she prefers to date a man shorter than her. That’s not to say that some women wouldn’t consider a shorter guy if there was enough connection/chemistry. But all Damon is saying is that a shorter man has to work harder than a taller one when it comes to the dating scene.
In a perfect world, neither height nor looks should matter at all, but in the real world, they do. It shouldn’t be seen as a reflection of being superficial. This is just the way things are. Even in the animal kingdom, there is preferred choice based on the size of the male animal’s horns, or the size/bulk of an alpha male. Those animals get their choice of the females… its just the ingrained nature of mating and dating.
That’s not to say that people can never get beyond their physical preferences in a mate, but in general, some people are at a disadvantage when it comes to what it generally seen as a preferred trait in the opposite sex.
That goes for women as well in terms of the physical traits that are most valued in them (eg. big breasts, small waist, shapely legs etc).
Well, since I'm not into the bar/lounge scene in my city, perhaps you two are right. The social circles I've been in are in larger cities around the world not just the US. Theaters, museums, concerts as well as other social functions that aren't just for the "hook up". Most of those people don't have to work harder at finding a friend to date or be married to. Even the smaller towns that I have become accustomed to don't seem to take the animalistic approach to dating anyone. They mostly seem to take people at a deeper level than what's on the surface I guess.
Just wanted to clarify that when I said 'the social scene', I didn't mean the bar scene or people that are looking for 'the hook up'... I meant the entire social microcosm of the city. I enjoy museums, concerts and I have actually performed in some theatres myself, both in North America and in Europe. I love to analyze human behavior, and so I find it interesting to watch who ends up dating/marrying who.
Going back to the human nature thing... I do think the whole focus on physical beauty has a lot to do with the desire to find a mate to create desirable offspring, with desirable characteristics (not just physical). After all, to cite an extreme example, if a woman were to resort to getting donor sperm to father a child, I'll bet that she is probably not going to pick a donor who is 5'5".
I've also noticed that it appears that the closer one gets to a major city, the more extreme the standards become... I'm not a sociologist by any means, but its just what I've noticed.
I have seen many shorter men, with taller women, but in my own experience its usually been wealthy shorter men with model-esque trophy wives (who they are also choosing for their genetic contributions!).
It's not all about looks, or animal behavior... And yes, it should be about soulful connections... and many times it is. But if one goes off instant physical attraction, or if you were writing a list of the ideal qualities you'd want your mate to have, I'll bet that "tall" is often on a woman's list, and "beautiful" is often on a man's list...
Just my opinion of course...
I haven't been in many really big world cities, but I bet most of the really short guys there who have really tall sexy girls on their arms are RICH! lol.
Other that that, I think it just boils down to- tall catches the eye quicker than short, just like handsome gets noticed more than fugly, just like men look for a nice ass and nice titties before they notice their 'personality' lol.
Nobody says we always decide who to be with based on that, only that human nature sees to it that it is generally that way with who we most desire.
I'm 5' 10" sans heels, and I love to wear them! However, Hubby's just a tad under 6'1" so on some nights, I'm taller, but he doesn't really let it get to him. I did date one guy in college who had an issue as he was only 5'9". It's never mattered to me either way, but I do love feeling all safe and comfy in hubby's arms.
"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx
My first girlfriend was 2" taller than me and my ex was a half inch taller. Beautiful women, and I have enough self-esteem not to worry about what her damn height is.
He is Jack Bauer after all, he and the Chuck Norris jokes vie for Who's the Toughest all the time. Christian Bale also goes nuts onset, but I think its just an ego thing in either case.
