My husband is the only man I've ever truly loved. I would give my life for him. I can't say that about any other guy I've dated.
I've said "I love you" to other guys, but I think what I meant was, "I love the way I feel when I'm with you." There's a big difference between that and love though.
I get that nervous feeling every time I just think about her.. talk to her... look at her picture... anything. Everything else just disappears.... If it feels this great just being online and over the phone, i can't imagin how amazing it would feel in person....
I think its a great question LadyX. I think the answers could really help a lot of people.
wow this question is really important and hard at the same time!!!
love is such a small word ... but it means so much. many poeple have different veiws on love. some say you can only have one true love. others say you may love several people in your lifetime. there are different levels of love and there are different types. the love you feel for your best friend, the love you feel for a family member, and the love you feel for your boyfriend or girlfriend are all different. but they are all love. it's hard to say how you can tell if you really are in love. i think the biggest part is ... just knowing it in your heart. when you're crushing on someone you may get butterflies and act nervous and your palms get sweatyy and u think about them all the time. and you may think you're falling in love with them. but once you actually do find love .... there's this sense of peace in your heart where you just kno. you don't have to worry about being stupid around them like you have to with a crush. you mgith get butterflies at the weirdest moments because all of a sudden it hits you that you love this person. you feel weird and almost achy because you know you could never live without them. it's like they complete you. you think about them constantly, but not just about them. you think about the two of you together, the future and the past. like i said ... it's really hard to describe.
I agree this is a thought provoking subject Lady X.
I have known someone for the last three years we both live about 3hrs away from each other. This wasn't a problem when we first met on-line because we wern't both looking for anything, he was just coming out of a long relationship and I was discovering being single and a few other turbulant things in my life, so there was no way I was gonna get sucked into all that lovey dovey stuff I was happy.
The only problem was the more we started to talk on the net the more we realised we had so much in common. We would finish each other's thought's or say the same thoughts, I had only known this sort of connection with close family etc.
4 months later we met up for 2days ( it went fast) and it was like I had always known him, we giggled and talked non-stop, and I just knew wow this is gonna be something, I just knew it. I loved the fact that we could talk constantly mostly laughing. He left to go back home, and I was so over-come with emotions, I was missing him so much already this was crazy I almost felt sick inside without him.
We went on holiday for two weeks after knowing each other for 7 months and I felt like I'd come home I felt like I fitted in with him and me, it was the best two weeks I have ever had. Lot's of laughing and lot's and I felt I could be me around him.
Life has got in the way with both of us and I haven't seen him for 1 and a half yrs. we have tried to stay away but we both can't.
My point is this, I know I'm in love with him, he is my best friend, the best kisser, I can be myself around him, and the thought of not having in my life well I just can't bear the thought of it. I hope and I know one day we will meet again someday it's just a matter of the right timing. I just cannot have him in my life he means so much to me.
How did I know it was Love? I met Robb at a party and when he came over to me you could feel the connection. But who want a girl like me, with my sexual history. But there was a connection. He called me a couple of days later and blew him off. Who would want a girl like me? He called again and I blew him off again. Who want want a girl like me?. Robb called again and told me he would not stop calling me until I agreed to go out with him and if I changed my phone number, he would still find me. Who would want a girl like me?
I agreed not to go to Dinner, not to go for Drinks, but just a mid day coffee at Starbucks, because I knew he would run the second he heard my sexual story. If he did not run then, the certainly would run when he heard that I had no intention of changing.
His response was so what's the big deal or something that sent the same message! He did not try to change me then or a month later or six months later the night before the wedding.
He did require one change, a child, I agreed to one, but we got two.
He accepted me as I was then and I have not changed in all these years.
Yes the room still lights up for me when he walks in. It still feels like a kick in the stomach when is away on a business trip and that is with my famale lover being with us.
When the right guy/gal walks in you will know, maybe not that night but the fireworks will go off at the right time.
How did I know I was in love with my partner...I have major trust issues...major ones...I push people away all the time...anyways with my current partner I got some terrible news one day and I called him up...he came over and held me and was there for me...He was the first person I thought of to share something so personal with...I knew then that I was in love with him...
When he still wanted to be with me after I kneed him in the testicles. I mean, I was pretty sure before that, but it sure made it clear.
"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx
When every time you think of the guy your heart jolts and you smile. When you're next to him it seems as if the oxygen is sucked out of the air, but you don't care because you're with him. When those darn butterflies just start flapping away in your stomach. You know it when you can be the person only your heart and soul knows around him. You know you're in love with a guy when if he were to be in an accident and become paralyzed from the neck down, you wouldn't be shy to always be by his side. I don't know for other women, but that's how I feel ♥
Jess, that was a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing it!
When I first met Nick something in me clicked. We met at the hospital where I work. He came to visit a friend. It was breathtaking. We exchanged phone numbers, email, all the usual forms of communication. We could talk for hours. We found out we had the same birthdays. Our sibilings shared a birthday. I could think of nothing else when we are apart. I would give mylife for him without a second thought. Now that we are apart because of his job we use lush to stay connected. There are other sites we could use but we both made friends on this site. When I am with him even on lush I am happy and satisfied. I count down the days until I can go back with him to finish is contract and then return to the states. We may try for another child. If its god will. I write stories for him. He inspires me. This site has caused us some problems. However we are married so they get settled and we move on. He is the best lover in bed. My needs always come before his. He is the love of my life. I will spend the rest of this life striving to be the best wife I can. Baby if you read this.. I love you, we say that so much.. but you are my heart.
We both knew, after a year talking before we actually met it was a done deal. Love was instant and forever without question. Call it fate, call it the final piece of our jigsaw in our life leading to each other, whatever you call it, we still feel the same and so so much more now than we ever have as far back when for the the first time our eyes met over the carpark. Forever is forever. 4 Keeps is 4Keeps and the feeling of purpose and sight are clearer than anything we have ever felt... Think that is a, cant say anymore than that momment.
xxx
And somewhere, between when you said “I would never leave you”....And when you said “I can’t stay here anymore”....My heart got caught in the crossfire of all your words....
I love really easily. I love my friends, my exes, my cousins, even select co-workers. To me, love is a feeling of caring about someone and their well being and by that definition, I pretty much love anyone who has made a positive appearance in my life. Being IN love, is a different boat, in my opinion. And I honestly can't pinpoint the moment when I stopped just lovingmy man and became IN love with him. But, if you were to ask me now how I know I'm in love with him, I would say its because I can't picture myself in 10, 20, or 30 years without him. The biggest signal for me is also being comfortable and being your complete self around them. My current boyfriend is the only guy I've been able to be 100% myself with. With my exes I was always trying to be something else in one way or another. When you are in love with someone, there's no need for that because they accept you for you and you accept them for them.