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Girls who like to control

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Hi, lush had opened my eyes to bdsm, but contrary to what seems to be the "norm" (i.e. girl being controlled by guy) being controlled turns me on as well...and I was wondering how many girls like taking control?


There is a large misconception about the BDSM lifestyle. BDSM is not about control; gaining, losing, trading. It is about surrender.

Example:

Horse & Rider : WHO is really in control?
The horse is a 2,000 lb muscled animal - perfectly capable of thinking for itself.
The rider sits atop said creature, using 2 reigns to give it direction.

Anyone can purchase a horse.
Anyone can ride a horse that has been broke to a ride.
Just because you own a horse and ride it doesn't make you a cowboy.

The art of it all is in the ability to gain the horses trust so much so that it trusts you..even when subjected to new, sometimes painful experiences like crossing a river or going through briar. It takes direction from you with full faith in you. This requires time, dedication and self sacrifice on both parts. Force has no business in it.

con·trol   /kənˈtroʊl/ Show Spelled
[kuhn-trohl] Show IPA
verb, -trolled, -trol·ling, noun
–verb (used with object)
1. to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command.
2. to hold in check; curb: to control a horse; to control one's emotions.
3. to test or verify (a scientific experiment) by a parallel experiment or other standard of comparison.
4. to eliminate or prevent the flourishing or spread of: to control a forest fire.
5. Obsolete . to check or regulate (transactions), originally by means of a duplicate register.


So I say to you Sir, I do enjoy control for the act itself is a beautiful thing. I just wish more people knew how beautiful it truely is, instead of distorting it into something distasteful and vile.
I'm generally a sub, but i find it very sexy sometimes when he tries to control me to just refuse and completley take over.
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There is a large misconception about the BDSM lifestyle. BDSM is not about control; gaining, losing, trading. It is about surrender.

Example:

Horse & Rider : WHO is really in control?
The horse is a 2,000 lb muscled animal - perfectly capable of thinking for itself.
The rider sits atop said creature, using 2 reigns to give it direction.

Anyone can purchase a horse.
Anyone can ride a horse that has been broke to a ride.
Just because you own a horse and ride it doesn't make you a cowboy.

The art of it all is in the ability to gain the horses trust so much so that it trusts you..even when subjected to new, sometimes painful experiences like crossing a river or going through briar. It takes direction from you with full faith in you. This requires time, dedication and self sacrifice on both parts. Force has no business in it.

con·trol   /kənˈtroʊl/ Show Spelled
[kuhn-trohl] Show IPA
verb, -trolled, -trol·ling, noun
–verb (used with object)
1. to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command.
2. to hold in check; curb: to control a horse; to control one's emotions.
3. to test or verify (a scientific experiment) by a parallel experiment or other standard of comparison.
4. to eliminate or prevent the flourishing or spread of: to control a forest fire.
5. Obsolete . to check or regulate (transactions), originally by means of a duplicate register.


So I say to you Sir, I do enjoy control for the act itself is a beautiful thing. I just wish more people knew how beautiful it truely is, instead of distorting it into something distasteful and vile.


That was almost poetic...very well said...
i am a sub and i will surrender my mind body and soul to my master
There are times when I "take control" in the bedroom, but not all the time....sex is a partnership for me and it fluctuates as to who is "in contol".

Personally, I dont consider myself Dom or Sub....but there are time I love to be in total control of the sex!! Its fun tobe the one making all the decisions!