I ended up at a club in Vegas last week, and went into the back room with a young lady for a 30 minute private dance. She was really beautiful, with all natural breasts which she let me play the whole time, and as we got close to the end she asked me if I "needed" another 30 minutes. She was from East Europe and had an accent and I didn't know exactly what she meant. I must have looked at her strange, and then she whispered that she didn't mind me cumming if I needed to do it while she was dancing with me. So of course after that offer I went in for the extra 30 minutes and this time she sat right on my cock with her crotch and humped me the whole way until I came in my pants.
So I'm wondering if something like that happened with your boyfriend of your husband, would you consider it cheating?
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It's one thing if it's a night out with the guys every once in a while on certain occasions...and as long as it doesn't go any further than a dance, I wouldn't mind. But not the super intimate, private kind of dance. That's skeevy.
But if it were a habitual thing where he frequented strip clubs and got lap dances every chance he got, then that'd be indication of a problem somewhere in our relationship...or that he's just skeevy. And that would definitely raise some red flags for me. That's almost the real-life equivalent of being married or in a relationship in real life and then coming online and forming relationships and such. It's a form of escapism and, as I said before, an indication of underlying problems within our relationship.
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Is this a serious question?
If my man is CUMMING in his pants as a result of another woman rubbing up against him, yeah, I'm gonna be PISSED not to mention feel betrayed, even if he told me about it.
It's one thing to visit a strip club on occasion for a drink with the boys or with business clients and enjoy the views but it's a whole other thing to pay for an experience with an over priced trollop behind the black curtain.
I don't know too many women who wouldn't find some issue with this one.
Yea...safe to say bro, another lady getting you off by sexual means is pretty "skeevy" as slips so eloquently put it.
I mean...you're basically asking the opposite as well. Would you consider it cheating if your GF gave another dude a lap dance and got him to jizz his fucking pants?
I probably would.
Yeah, he'd be single pretty quick after that.
(in my best Beavis and Butthead voice)
"Get this, the Dude said he came in his pants."
"In? Cool. Uh-uh-huhuhuh. So cool."
going to a strip club, and getting a dance would be ok.
cumming in your pans while someone ground down, yeah, i would count that as a cheat.
I don't think it would be cheating, but still not something you want your gf/wife find out about.
^^ OKAY...referring to what was mentioned above, If you don't want your significant other to find out about something...that would lead me to assume that they would be upset if they did, correct? Aaaaand if they would be upset, then you obviously did something that you shouldn't have! If it needs to be kept a secret, you definitely should NOT be doing it.
Anyway... to answer the question itself, a lap dance isn't technically cheating, but I don't know many girls who would want their boyfriends/ husbands getting a lap dance. Personally, I would be really kind of pissed off. Now, the part about you cumming in your pants...(and I'm just ignoring the fact that this obviously wasn't a completely legitimate strip club) I would personally consider it cheating, because she might as well have been jerking you off with her hand. But some girls might feel differently about it, this is just my opinion.
This would bother me if it was a regular thing and he felt compelled to waste a lot of money on lapdances - but as a one-off, I don't find it all that upsetting. I know I'm in the minority on that, but I've gone to strip clubs with a BF and done all kinds of crazy things. I know what dancers do, what's part of the gig, and I don't really find it all that threatening. As long as the guy's pants stay on, they're just selling a fantasy and a bit of entertainment. The scenario would piss me off if it *wasn't* a stripper but just some random girl in a club, but I feel like strip clubs are exempt from the hard rules - it's like sexual disneyland. Cash is on the forefront - these girls don't want your man.
The scenario described is obviously a more intense lap dance - but not all that different from what a stripper does in a regular lap dance. They *are* grinding on your guy to some degree and most guys getting a dance aren't sitting there with a limp dick. Dances are designed to wind a guy up - it's just basic biology. If they're not jizzing in their pants, they're probably jacking off to thoughts of the stripper later. Is that considered cheating? If so, then don't ever let your man go to a strip club.
Again - it's not an ideal scenario, but if it was a random thing or a moment on a Vegas trip, and he's not a strip-club regular, I wouldn't stress.
Is it not between the two people?
I guess the thing is that we each have to make that determination for ourselves, AND if in doubt, ask your partner. I would bet that while there are some partners who would not consider it cheating, and might not have any problem with it, most would. And if MY gal came home from a strip club (or anywhere) and told me she willingly had some guy grinding up on her in simulated sex until she had an orgasm.... she cheated. So to me, yes, you cheated.
Not much of a boyfriend if you are cumming in your pants. Serious question, if your "girlfriend" done the same, what would you think? x
All you need do is sound the alarm. 
