females and cd/ts

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a what?

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a what?

Now that you know what the terminology is; is you one of them girls who might be or might not be...interested?

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Is there something you want to tell us.... ?

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Hmmm....no....I don't think that was what I was referring to. *thinks*

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And there I was thinking you had 'breasts and a dick'....

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Well I am bi and my main fantasy is a person with breasts and a dick, so I would love to have a ts if perhaps they had some surgery. I would definitely be into that sort of thing!

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Why would I be interested in a man who takes estrogen and has obvious emotional issues?

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Why would I be interested in a man who takes estrogen and has obvious emotional issues?

Obvious emotional issues?? I can understand if you're not attracted to transgendered people or cross-dressers, but to paint them as having emotional issues is rather ignorant and quite offensive. Many transgendered people and cross-dressers are quite well-adjusted, especially once they've come to terms with their gender (and how to express it, change it, etc. so their appearance matches their mind). Most of those who have emotional issues, in my experience, are those who are struggling to reconcile their identity/appearance with a society that condemns them, misunderstands them, judges them, etc. Imagine if your mind and body didn't match, and society judged you for trying to do what you could to make up for the discrepancy. Gender is a huge part of our identity. The fact that people are willing to take hormones and have major surgery, all with requisite risks and side effects, should tell you JUST how much a gender identity issue can affect someone.

If you're not interested in dating such a person, no one's twisting your arm. But "obvious emotional issues"? That's...I have no words.

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Why would I be interested in a man who takes estrogen and has obvious emotional issues?

Obvious emotional issues?? I can understand if you're not attracted to transgendered people or cross-dressers, but to paint them as having emotional issues is rather ignorant and quite offensive. Many transgendered people and cross-dressers are quite well-adjusted, especially once they've come to terms with their gender (and how to express it, change it, etc. so their appearance matches their mind). Most of those who have emotional issues, in my experience, are those who are struggling to reconcile their identity/appearance with a society that condemns them, misunderstands them, judges them, etc. Imagine if your mind and body didn't match, and society judged you for trying to do what you could to make up for the discrepancy. Gender is a huge part of our identity. The fact that people are willing to take hormones and have major surgery, all with requisite risks and side effects, should tell you JUST how much a gender identity issue can affect someone.

If you're not interested in dating such a person, no one's twisting your arm. But "obvious emotional issues"? That's...I have no words.

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amen - a few things to add -

1. at one point in my life i was habitat-challanged - one of the places that took me in, a couple of the roomies were CDs - nice guys, good jobs, emotionally stable, one had a g/f - they were both hetero, but had a side to them that was feminine, and like being able to explore that side - i've met a lot of straight guys who were way more messed up emotionally. we had 'girl' days on occasion, and it was always relaxed, and comfortable and i loved them to peices - still have a fond spot in my heart for CDs (btw, partied with the 'girl's in The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence in SF in my day... FUN peeps, and totally cool!)

2. Trannys - yes, i think some people were simply born into the wrong bodies, it's not something, Trans gender surgery, you do as a whim - you have to be commited - my god, it's a long process, expensive, and you have to live as a woman in your day to day life and have psych evals to go thru with it - these aren't people with emotional issues, these are people are are incredibly brave and have to be really together in order to do thru with this procedure, often in the face of public ridicule or worse. oh, and it goes both ways, i know there are women out there who identify as male as well, something a little less stigmatic, i think, but still...

3. this is lush, not Sunday school - i thought we left all the judgements about peoples sexuality, fetishes, etc, at the door. really, i know there's a community of CDs here, and do we really want to make blanket judgements about them? live and let live.

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Well, I've obviously upset a few people. I would like to apologize to you for that.

I guess not being comfortable with your own genitalia has no emotional connections at all. I will cherish this lesson learned.

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Well, I've obviously upset a few people. I would like to apologize to you for that.

I guess not being comfortable with your own genitalia has no emotional connections at all. I will cherish this lesson learned.

Thank you for being willing to learn from this. Many people are not, particularly with issues such as this, so your willingness speaks volumes about your character. :)