A few months ago I joined a dating site , chatted with a lady and exchanged numbers. We began texting and sending each other pictures . One night I wanted to talk called her phone and it was some pervert plumber on the answer machine . I was humiliated ! I stopped all online things. I'm new to lush and wanted to know how do you ladies trust the profile gender?
lol no i dnt especially wen profile says she's lesbian and wont add any man, also u ll find lot of lesbians here dnt really thnk der r tht many
Yea I've been trying to watch for clues. It sucks for the ppl who are really themselves on here.
I'm with you biLadyDEe I'm new to lush and just looking to have some on line fun, ( chat) it's hard to know who you are talking to!
Iefun I guess we can only hope for the best or ask lots of questions
Generally yes. But at the sometime I also check on possible clues.
This is really a most difficult question. even pictures don't help since it is easy to download a coherent set of pictures to fit the personality you want to assume. Interestingly, I feel more certain with some female friends who don't post pictures, because it would be so much easier to download pictures of the kind of person you would like to be from the internet, and post them on Lush as you. However, it is only when you start chatting with someone that I think you can be fairly certain, because it is very difficult to take on an assumed personality 100% of the time, and inconsistencies will soon start to show. Even then, it is difficult not to be suspicious some of the time, particularly if you are slightly paranoid like me.
Final thought - are you the person you might be pretending got be.
I have had people wanting to confirm via messenger. They just want to hear your voice and make certain. That's one way to do it.
I guess since I'm not here for that reason, it matters a lot less to me than others. If you want to assume the identity of someone else, that's fine as I rarely chat, and when I do it's about normal things you would talk to friends about.
I have a few people I have met. As was said above, because I've spent a lot of time talking to them, I felt comfortable with who they were. And mostly, I've been happy with the meetings. I look forward to meeting more of my lush friends!
Mostly, unless they give me a reason not to.
I also don't really care one way or the other. If I am truly interested In the person I will trust them.
I have learned to not truly trust any profile at first. The gender, motives, and other things are often misleading at best, outright LIES a good many times. While for some people this is fine because they don't really care, and view all of LUSH as a fantasy so it does not matter; it matters to ME.
I haven't really thought a lot about this.
I think that it depends on who you are a lot too.
In my case once I have got it across to people that I will not send out photos or go on cam then really I think that the idea of someone faking their sex is a little absurd... or perhpas irrelevant. I think most guys only fake their sex, masquerade as a woman, to get pics of other women in passing themselves off as a lesbian. If you send out personal pics then I can see that this could be a problem. I guess that then yes, you have to watch for clues and so on. If you don't send out personal stuff then the whole problem never really comes up. If a guy wants to pass himself off as a girl to cyber with me or just get dirty in general... well fine. I am not going to argue with him. If he pushes my buttons online then his real sex is irrelevant.
There is a lot of deception here online, here in Lush. I think presuming that this site represents real life is just too optimistic. I have a lot of friends and I am sure that certain things are not the same as they are here.
a) that most of the men have a penis over 7 inches in length
b) that most of the women I know are really bi (I am sure this is not true)
c) that all of them need sex at least as often as me
d) that they are all basically kinky in some way
Real life is out there, not in here.
Ah, the wacky world wide web! Gotta love the anonymity the internet provides us. It has become a breeding ground for questionable characters with shady agendas more often than not. And those Catfish spoil it for the good ones unfortunately.
I think there are two streams of thought here; one is online dating and the second is online playtime.
As BiLadyDEe said in her intro, her initial frustration came as a result of her experience on an online dating site. That can be especially disheartening because most people on dating sites, paid or unpaid, are looking to meet people either for a hook-up or just a date or looking for a long-term relationship. There is a certain level of expectation that comes with being a member on one of those sites, the least of which would be an openness to carry on the conversation via email, text, and/or phone to see if the initial chemistry is there. Eventually, the goal would be to meet in person and see how well that goes, or not.
On sites like Lush, those expectations aren't there. It's understood that most people on sex sites are here for fun, fantasy, excitement, release. Anonymity and being guarded about one's personal information because of the genre is expected and accepted. That's not to say there aren't exceptions to either scenarios, because there are!
With regards to online dating, I've done it on and off for several years and have met my fair share of liars, cheaters, fornicators, fakes, scammers and profiles that just want some lovin' from yet another digit added to their ever expanding roster of cyber conquests. Yeah, I've met them ALL! Having said that, I have also met some pretty amazing men, had some memorable dates and even developed some great friendships along the way. Of course, that was only AFTER I learned a few hard lessons along the way.
And that goes for Lush too.
At the end of the day, you will NEVER really know who you're talking to be it on an online dating site or Lush unless you meet in person or at the very least, . It's that simple. BUT that doesn't mean there aren't wonderful people with productive lives who are honest and sincere on the other end of the computer screen, because there definitely are, LOTS!
As already mentioned, with regards to Lush anyway, some Lushies don't care who's on the other end or if someone is pretending to be someone they're not. It's irrelevant to them because it's meant to all be a fantasy anyway, and since there is no chance of meeting, who cares? For others, it's not that simple and I completely understand that.
So the only advice I can give you based on my own experience is that, if cultivating honest friendships is important to you, you need to be discerning. Ask questions, spend time talking with someone one-on-one and getting to know them, NOT sex chat just yet, just normal chat to see if you have anything in common. Read their profile bios and interests, check out their stories if they have any, read through their forum posts if that's something they participate in. I would also suggest checking out friend lists (although sometimes this is hidden); I think you can tell a lot about a profile by their friend list. If you really NEED to know something about someone, ask one of their friends in their friend list or someone that posts frequently on their wall. Why not? I've done it a few times and it has sometimes been a factor whether or not I friend someone.
The most important point I have for you is to try and NOT let all of this jade you so much that you aren't open to experiencing all the great things Lush has to offer because there are plenty. Be safe. Be smart and above all else, keep your sense of humour. It will make things even more enjoyable.
I trust. But also verify if I can.
no reason not to
but do check further if you want to get to know someone
Listen to the person's voice would be a good solution.
It goes like this: in society 2% of women consider themselves lesbian and 3% bisexual. That's just 5% of women that consider themselves non-straight. Here it's 73%. And, yes, I researched it. Ladies and gentlemen, it is nonsense. In most cases they are men posing as women in order to get with les or bi women. The joke's on them: lots of other men had the same idea so all they get with is other fakes.
While it may be true that women with lesbian or bisexual interests are attracted to sex sites there is no way to explain the massive bias towards lesbian and bi women you see on them. Same goes for real girls who affect bisexuality as a fashion statement, they're a minority also.
Can you really imagine walking into some place in real life and only 3 out of 10 women are straight? Bullshit.
Male members I won't even consider.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
I take everything here at face value. But after a few conversations with someone (or sometimes just one convo), I'm pretty good with figuring out if they're lying about being a female or not. I have to say that I personally haven't come across any women on here pretending to be men (that I'm aware of). But I have come across quite a few men here masquerading as women. It's really easy to figure out. They pretend to be bisexual or lesbian to get their kinks out...and they usually want nothing to do with men, even on a casual friendship level.
Show me a lesbian/bisexual woman here who is hostile towards men without being provoked, and most likely you've got yourself a man. Is this always the case? Of course not. But usually it is.
But as far as looking at a profile and immediately not trusting the gender, I don't go that far. It takes a bit of interaction for my instincts to kick in.
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Oh great! I am gullible and trusting.
I have met some great people here and some creepers.
Over time I just delete the ones who are not genuine.
It's unfortunate...
Art can never exist without naked beauty displayed. Yeah - if we can't trust fellow sex addicts what can we do?
Obviously if you want to meet then you'll do a bit of investigation; but unless the guy is gay then I seriously doubt whether he can convince me he's a woman. Mind you, if she turned out ot be he then would that be an issue?
OMG!! That hot guy could be a lesbian !!
O.o I hope not.
dang it.
I had to post a pic to prove that I wasn't a google image. That sucks!
haha. blehh.
Of all our inventions for mass communication, 
