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Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?
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Honestly,
I look at their profiles and if all they have is pics of their dicks, then I feel they have nothing to offer.
If there is no substance and something interesting besides a pic of their cocks, then I move on.
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Steph
I look at their profiles and if all they have is pics of their dicks, then I feel they have nothing to offer.
If there is no substance and something interesting besides a pic of their cocks, then I move on.
Kisses!
Steph
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It really does depend on the message. But in general I like to see who I'm talking to. If they explain why they have no picture I might be more inclined to chat.
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Quote by 1Zratedgal
Honestly,
I look at their profiles and if all they have is pics of their dicks, then I feel they have nothing to offer.
If there is no substance and something interesting besides a pic of their cocks, then I move on.
Kisses!
Steph
So true!
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yup ....
Alpha Blonde
Yes. It takes about 30 seconds to pick from one of the many uploaded images that Lush offers as avatar choices or you can upload any personalized image you want in even less time. To just have an impersonal generic avatar just seems... I dunno... lazy. No offence. Most people don't use their real pics as their avatars, so picking an image that represents you on some level will differentiate you in the sea of red/white zombies.
Yep I wont add people who dont as it's so easy just to upload a avatar having a sort of picture to the person i'm talking with gives them a face that i can familiarize myself with and that in tern gives me a sort of trust bond with that person so if they dont even bother with that then i wont bother with them.
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actually .... this has happened yet again tonight ... so I am gonna vent.
What is the deal with you guys .... the Guest AV ..... NO other personal info or pics on your profile, YET you wanna know what we look like, how tall, breast size, etc etc
When, I do allow a guy to "view" my personal photos .... they think I am RUDE when I ask, "so .... are you going to share your photos?"
These are some of the FOREVER excuse why they (the guys) don't share:
1) .... I work in an industry that would frown if they found me here (like, what? .... your work suspects you are here and they are gonna go looking at lush to find you????)
2) .... I had someone from work find me here, it was so embarrassing (oh, yeah, what about the person that found you??)
3) .... I am married .... so it's not cool to share my pics
4) .... I am a private person
good lord!! you think you are that important to hide in secrecy??
so ... after my last little chat with the red-silouette .... fck it ... no AV, you are lazy ... not want to share (but ask me to share with you) .... block.
ahhhh .... time for a wine.
What is the deal with you guys .... the Guest AV ..... NO other personal info or pics on your profile, YET you wanna know what we look like, how tall, breast size, etc etc
When, I do allow a guy to "view" my personal photos .... they think I am RUDE when I ask, "so .... are you going to share your photos?"
These are some of the FOREVER excuse why they (the guys) don't share:
1) .... I work in an industry that would frown if they found me here (like, what? .... your work suspects you are here and they are gonna go looking at lush to find you????)
2) .... I had someone from work find me here, it was so embarrassing (oh, yeah, what about the person that found you??)
3) .... I am married .... so it's not cool to share my pics
4) .... I am a private person
good lord!!
you think you are that important to hide in secrecy??so ... after my last little chat with the red-silouette .... fck it ... no AV, you are lazy ... not want to share (but ask me to share with you) .... block.
ahhhh .... time for a wine.
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I say we lobby Nicola to make this the default avatar. I don't think anyone will get lucky making friends or cybering with this. Or maybe they will.
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buzz!!
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Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?
Yes. Yes I am.
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actually .... this has happened yet again tonight ... so I am gonna vent.
What is the deal with you guys .... the Guest AV ..... NO other personal info or pics on your profile, YET you wanna know what we look like, how tall, breast size, etc etc
When, I do allow a guy to "view" my personal photos .... they think I am RUDE when I ask, "so .... are you going to share your photos?"
These are some of the FOREVER excuse why they (the guys) don't share:
1) .... I work in an industry that would frown if they found me here (like, what? .... your work suspects you are here and they are gonna go looking at lush to find you????)
2) .... I had someone from work find me here, it was so embarrassing (oh, yeah, what about the person that found you??)
3) .... I am married .... so it's not cool to share my pics
4) .... I am a private person
good lord!!
so ... after my last little chat with the red-silouette .... fck it ... no AV, you are lazy ... not want to share (but ask me to share with you) .... block.
ahhhh .... time for a wine.
Yeah I agree. I figure you could at least take the time to put a cartoon or a scenic pic or something there. I got excuse #1 the last time I asked a silhouette about it in a chat. I promptly went through my friends list and deleted all silhouettes.
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I like a picture, but it's not a deal breaker. What is a deal breaker is how he approaches me, whether we meet in a chat room, email, or instant chat. I want to read about him in his profile, find out something about him, so if its blank, I don't respond. And the approach is most important. If it seems as if he wants to get to know me, rather than wham bam, then we can move on.
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Yes unless his message is interesting. It's not fair you can see me but I can't see you.
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Quote by dune
Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?
Do like the women do, man... post a photo of your favorite kitty cat or cuddly doggie. That's old school, Personals technique...man.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Personal assistant put it very well....
And, like DD said, there are hundreds of Lush AVs to choose from, so, why not use one??
I took the time to upload and AV, why can't you? Also, I've just looked at your profile - while you have some info there, it's not much... I like to have some sort of idea of who I'm adding before I do, you know?
Oh, Buzz - that is an AWESOME idea for the standard AV!!! Love it!!
And, like DD said, there are hundreds of Lush AVs to choose from, so, why not use one??
I took the time to upload and AV, why can't you? Also, I've just looked at your profile - while you have some info there, it's not much... I like to have some sort of idea of who I'm adding before I do, you know?
Oh, Buzz - that is an AWESOME idea for the standard AV!!! Love it!!
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For me it depends on two things:
1) How they approach me and whether it shows any indication that they have, for example, read one of my stories, or looked at my profile.
"Hi, will you be my mistress" tends to come up a lot. That will get you nowhere. "Hi, I read your story and I really liked it," may be more successful. "Hi, I'm so-and-so, I really liked the way you portrayed x-character, what do you think about y-interesting topic of discussion," will get you an express reply.
2) Whether their profile shows them to be interested in... well anything really. Besides sex, we all get that one, I need to know what ELSE.
So if your profile shows cock pics and interests are listed as "tits" and "creampies" then you will be ignored. If they list something real, great. If it lists things I like too, even better. And it helps if it shows that you have posted a comment on a story or on the forum within the activity list's memory.
Ahh, hang on, all of the above applies to people with pictures too. So I guess the short answer to your question is no, not at all.
Although, lack of avatar pic tends to go hand in hand with tossers who want to cam with sluts. It's a stereotype, but an accurate one, unfortunately. Does it really take much effort to run a google image search and pick something?
1) How they approach me and whether it shows any indication that they have, for example, read one of my stories, or looked at my profile.
"Hi, will you be my mistress" tends to come up a lot. That will get you nowhere. "Hi, I read your story and I really liked it," may be more successful. "Hi, I'm so-and-so, I really liked the way you portrayed x-character, what do you think about y-interesting topic of discussion," will get you an express reply.
2) Whether their profile shows them to be interested in... well anything really. Besides sex, we all get that one, I need to know what ELSE.
So if your profile shows cock pics and interests are listed as "tits" and "creampies" then you will be ignored. If they list something real, great. If it lists things I like too, even better. And it helps if it shows that you have posted a comment on a story or on the forum within the activity list's memory.
Ahh, hang on, all of the above applies to people with pictures too. So I guess the short answer to your question is no, not at all.
Although, lack of avatar pic tends to go hand in hand with tossers who want to cam with sluts. It's a stereotype, but an accurate one, unfortunately. Does it really take much effort to run a google image search and pick something?
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Yes. It takes about 30 seconds to pick from one of the many uploaded images that Lush offers as avatar choices or you can upload any personalized image you want in even less time. To just have an impersonal generic avatar just seems... I dunno... lazy. No offence. Most people don't use their real pics as their avatars, so picking an image that represents you on some level will differentiate you in the sea of red/white zombies.
As always - Dancing words of wisdom - but also your bio needs to say something about you as well - its not too difficult to do guy's.
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Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
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Speaking for myself (and probably a large part of the female population here). Take a look at the hits on my page. Now, take a look at the hits on YOUR page. Take a moment to wonder "Wow. Her page has been viewed 1,000 times more than mine. I wonder how many friend requests, messages to view guys cocks, to chat, to join in on password protected private chats, questions about sex, requests to cyber, she gets? Oh, and how many of those little black boxes does she get of the same?
THEN ask yourself, how does she deal with all of those? Does she answer them all?
No. If i did, I wouldn't have any time for myself. I am a story mod, i keep up with my friends, i post on the forums, i write, i have a Mistress here, and i have a life off line.
Here is how it works. Is someone catches my eye, someone i don't know, i will write back. A generic message from a generic guy with a generic avatar ain't gonna do it. take the time (5 minutes or less) to find an avatar! what is so hard about that? it doesn't have to be a picture of you - or even sex related. Let it tell me something about you! if you're into music, post a guitar or a musician you really dig. if you're it sports, post your favorite teams logo. if your into bdsm, post a picture of handcuffs.
And then, take another 15 minutes to fill out a bio telling me about yourself. put up wall paper, make it catch my eye, make yourself sound interesting. thing of it as shopping. if i walk into the store and see a 20 red and white generic looking pairs of sneakers and one that is bright pink with glow in the dark shoe laces, you think i'm going to pick thru the 20 identical pair or go straight to the pink ones and try them on? Yeah, i might find one of those 20 that is really comfy, but i'm not going to spend an hour trying them all on.
sell yourself. it's not that hard. a generic avatar screams 'i am not interesting and i don't care enough to make myself interesting'. So why would that appeal to me?
THEN ask yourself, how does she deal with all of those? Does she answer them all?
No. If i did, I wouldn't have any time for myself. I am a story mod, i keep up with my friends, i post on the forums, i write, i have a Mistress here, and i have a life off line.
Here is how it works. Is someone catches my eye, someone i don't know, i will write back. A generic message from a generic guy with a generic avatar ain't gonna do it. take the time (5 minutes or less) to find an avatar! what is so hard about that? it doesn't have to be a picture of you - or even sex related. Let it tell me something about you! if you're into music, post a guitar or a musician you really dig. if you're it sports, post your favorite teams logo. if your into bdsm, post a picture of handcuffs.
And then, take another 15 minutes to fill out a bio telling me about yourself. put up wall paper, make it catch my eye, make yourself sound interesting. thing of it as shopping. if i walk into the store and see a 20 red and white generic looking pairs of sneakers and one that is bright pink with glow in the dark shoe laces, you think i'm going to pick thru the 20 identical pair or go straight to the pink ones and try them on? Yeah, i might find one of those 20 that is really comfy, but i'm not going to spend an hour trying them all on.
sell yourself. it's not that hard. a generic avatar screams 'i am not interesting and i don't care enough to make myself interesting'. So why would that appeal to me?
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if i walk into the store and see a 20 red and white generic looking pairs of sneakers and one that is bright pink with glow in the dark shoe laces, you think i'm going to pick thru the 20 identical pair or go straight to the pink ones and try them on?
I HATE shopping, but... I NEEEEEED THOSE SHOES!!!
If I see somebody without an avatar, I reckon they have something to hide (in a bad way), or they're laaaaazy, or pooter illiterate. The latter two are both things that can be solved. The former makes me think they're a politician (Very Bad).
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
Yes. It takes about 30 seconds to pick from one of the many uploaded images that Lush offers as avatar choices or you can upload any personalized image you want in even less time. To just have an impersonal generic avatar just seems... I dunno... lazy. No offence. Most people don't use their real pics as their avatars, so picking an image that represents you on some level will differentiate you in the sea of red/white zombies.
Perfect response..
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Quote by sprite
Speaking for myself (and probably a large part of the female population here). Take a look at the hits on my page. Now, take a look at the hits on YOUR page. Take a moment to wonder "Wow. Her page has been viewed 1,000 times more than mine. I wonder how many friend requests, messages to view guys cocks, to chat, to join in on password protected private chats, questions about sex, requests to cyber, she gets? Oh, and how many of those little black boxes does she get of the same?
THEN ask yourself, how does she deal with all of those? Does she answer them all?
No. If i did, I wouldn't have any time for myself. I am a story mod, i keep up with my friends, i post on the forums, i write, i have a Mistress here, and i have a life off line.
Here is how it works. Is someone catches my eye, someone i don't know, i will write back. A generic message from a generic guy with a generic avatar ain't gonna do it. take the time (5 minutes or less) to find an avatar! what is so hard about that? it doesn't have to be a picture of you - or even sex related. Let it tell me something about you! if you're into music, post a guitar or a musician you really dig. if you're it sports, post your favorite teams logo. if your into bdsm, post a picture of handcuffs.
And then, take another 15 minutes to fill out a bio telling me about yourself. put up wall paper, make it catch my eye, make yourself sound interesting. thing of it as shopping. if i walk into the store and see a 20 red and white generic looking pairs of sneakers and one that is bright pink with glow in the dark shoe laces, you think i'm going to pick thru the 20 identical pair or go straight to the pink ones and try them on? Yeah, i might find one of those 20 that is really comfy, but i'm not going to spend an hour trying them all on.
sell yourself. it's not that hard. a generic avatar screams 'i am not interesting and i don't care enough to make myself interesting'. So why would that appeal to me?
It's really hard being on Lush and having a vagina. No matter what your profile says, dudes are going to do all that shit you just said. And I admit, when I first joined Lush I was just like that. A kid in a candy store. There were tits and pussy on so many profiles. I just wanted to see them all. Then I realized there were real people behind the avatars and pics. Those tits and pussies were attached to real people. So my attitude and approach changed. My Lushing experince changed, for the better I might add.
There are only a handful of people that I'll send a black box too completely uninvited and out of the blue. I know women get slammed with unwanted and unnecessary boxes and requests and messages. I always feel like an intruder if/when I send to someone. And for people like you, you probably get more stuff in a day than I get in a month. It's times like this i'm glad I have a penis. Haha.
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