I would suggest letting the women answer this question, since it was addressed to them. You had your say.
If he loves me and i love him, and of course if the sex is great, then I wouldn't mind supporting both of us. I make way more money than I need. But he of course has to get out there and do something. Can't have a mate wasting the whole day not working.
Here is my two-cent’s worth. And I am speaking from personal experience. It might help to define some of the terms that have been used in the posts too.
The job/career or the amount a man makes does not influence my decision if I will date him or marry him. What does impress me are his goals and ambitions. With today's economy people need to accept change and manage money differently then we did even 20 years ago. I don't need a "Sugar Daddy" and I won't be a "Sugar Momma". I know many successful men who have lost their jobs, but have not let that stop them. They have had to "reinvent" themselves. This takes certain character qualities that they need to posses to succeed, such as drive, ambition, determination, and commitment. These qualities separate a successful man from a dead beat as mentioned earlier in the posts.
To me a dead beat is someone who needs a kick in the ass to get off his butt to even get a job. And someone on welfare doesn't always mean they are a dead beat. A person who has no desire to change their circumstances and chooses to stay on welfare would be a dead beat. And I know those kinds of people who prefer to be taken care of and I would not be in a relationship with them since that makes me the caretaker and not a partner. I work hard for what I have and want and would expect the person I am in relationship with to work right along side of me.
Yes I expect to go out and have fun, take vacations, pay the bills, start a business and whatever else there is that we would want to do. I do it all now on my own. But if I am in a relationship and it was to become a permanent one, I would expect there to be team work, encouragement and honest communication. This is so important for a successful relationship. If you don’t, it results in a divorce, at least for me it did.
Now, someone who works at McDonald’s does not make them a dead beat either. It goes back to ambition and what makes the person happy. How many people do you know who are truly happy working at McDonald’s…unless they own it?! But it can be a stepping stone for a person while they are reaching the other goals in their life. I think what ever a person is doing should make them happy. If it does not, then that also affects the relationship too.
The other thing that separates all of us is how we define what makes us happy. For some it is a simpler lifestyle. Others want to experience the world. So whatever it is that makes us happy we should do our best to get there and enjoy the process on the way. Hopefully with a person who is on the same page as us and heading in the same direction!
Absolutely! I would never date a guy who works at McDonald's or something similar. Education is of high importance to me. I value my education and I hope my partner does as well. If we can't carry intelligent conversations I will not be interested. This is not to say that every person who works at McDonald's is uneducated, by any means.
When I think about it, I know I would be embarassed to introduce my boyfriend, fiance, husband to my circle of friends or coworkers who would ask "So what do you do for a living?". Judge me if you want but that's my honest answer. It has nothing to do with his ability to buy me gifts or take care of me. I don't care if he's the manager who overseas ten McDonald's. I still couldn't and wouldn't do it. Also keep in mind I am only stating I wouldn't be involved in a relationship as it's a different ballgame if it was solely sex.
no, it does not count just as long as they can spend time and a lot of energy with me. that does not cost much. also i want them in a job they love and enjoy but not too much it keeps them away. he he hehe he he.
I dont care what he/she does for a living, as long as its is legal and doesnt hurt anyone. I would never be with someone just because of their job or because they were wealthy, that is so shallow!
