I just turned 40 a few months back, so this is new territory for me.
My wife wants me to pick up another woman and mess around with her a little bit, but I'm having my doubts about it because I'm now 40.
She says that I'm worried about nothing & I'll be surprised, but she is my wife, so I sense the wifely obligation. Is there a stigma against older men because of their age or is more of a physical thing?
If there is one, I hope it's for the sagging body thing, because I have that whipped
Older lovers are great...they sometimes are less energetic and frantic than younger men but the experience of all those years make for a great experience most times.
I'm not sure what stereotype you are talking about. A lot of women love an older (experienced) man who knows how to pleasure them. Maybe if you were 60 or 70, you'd be dealing with people believing you aren't up to the task.
And we get it, you're in great shape.
I've never heard of any stereotype relating to forty year old men, either.
I don't think you have anything to worry about.
I think it depends on the age of the girls you are considering. If you're looking at 20 year old girls, then yeah, a 40 year old guy might seem old to them. Then again there are probably some 20 year old girls that like an older guy...
I think it's all relative. For the most part, it's all about perception and how you feel about yourself.
I don't think (in general) that anyone would consider 40 to be exceptionally old, or an age that carries a 'stigma' related to age.
Ill have a bigger stigma over your chest, the one thing about older men is that it seems they have gotten over all the bullshit about looking like iron man... i.e. shaving all their hair off.
Thanks Lisa & dancing Doll. Oh yeah, and everyone else too.
Let’s see, we are usually financially secure, have had time to mature, have had the chance to learn about women and what they need, and don't get so damn nervous about sex that we make fools of ourselves like we did in our younger years. Much like older women, there is a lot to say about a little ripening of the grape.
No stigmaz up in this hizzouse about older menz, play-bwah.
I like the older men, even if you do wax your chest.rBpK0hr2qK5jibeC
I have no problem with a man that is 40 and looks like you mmmmmmmmm I wouldn't let you leave my bed let alone go to war.
Being honest here your wife isn't wanting a woman for when you are not at home. Someone to stop her from missing you so much.
Forgive but if it was a man she required I wonder if you would feel ok with that, but becasue it's a woman maybe it's ok???
No stigma whatsoever. He's smart, confident, secure in himself, and does a damn good job of making ME feel secure about MYSELF. 51, yeah, and I wouldn't trade him for anyone.
"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx
Well Rock all I can say is thank you to your wife and I volunteer!!! hehehe You're a total hottie dude no matter what the hell your age is!
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Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! SRSLY - If that photo is a recent one of you, I'd say there's not much for you to worry abotu 'cos for 40 you look damn fiiiiiine.
Having dated a man 10 years my Snr. (I was 18 he was 28) the only stigma I have against older men is stamina - I have an exceedingly high sex drive and sometimes he couldn't keep up with that... But that could just be him. However when you say 'old man' I don't think of a 40 year old... I think of like a 60-70s creepy leery dude...
But older men have a lot of pluses too. They tend to know their way around a woman (and themselves!) better, I also find they're more confident - they may have some age related insecurities, but they're more comfortable in their bodies I suppose. But really, stamina is the only thing - but you said somewhere you go running for 20 miles a day or something, right? So that's clearly not a problem for you.
And again, for 40, you're damn fine.
What sometimes does bug me a little bit about some and not all, is that they keep banging on about how old they are. And after a few reasurances to big up the ego, they keep going on about it. This can be tiresome after a while, because most men that are 40 look pretty damn hot to me, why can't they see this?
