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Maybe get a female to help you write it? 
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I think it's fun to attempt to write from the opposite genders point of view. You'll find yourself getting more immersed in your writing when you do, gotta dig deep into that imagination to pull it off. I also think the readers will find it very interesting to see what you think females are thinking during sex. I know I get really curious to read stories by females when they write first person from a mans perspective. Go for it.
Writing as the opposite gender can be fun and enlightening. Really, just write what you think the opposite gender would do and it'll allow for that gender to see how you believe their mind works. Honestly as long as you don't appear ignorant or sexist, it's really not a challenge when writing.
the book I am writing is told from the perspective of a female and so far everyone I've shown it to has loved it. I find writing from the opposite gender's perspective fun and as felix said, makes you really dig into your imagination.
the book I am writing is told from the perspective of a female and so far everyone I've shown it to has loved it. I find writing from the opposite gender's perspective fun and as felix said, makes you really dig into your imagination.
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I write a as gay man pretty often... I find it fun to change genders when writing...
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Good advice for me personally everyone.
More than not, when I read, I don't know the gender of the author and so take the writing for its self without this consideration. This may be funny but, it's true. It seems if I do take the time to know the author, usually, they are writing from their proper perspective and really, I personally can't think of any example for the opposite.
But with all that said, I see your points. Writing as the opposite gender can be just that : ) Very cool and oh so interesting in its self : )
More than not, when I read, I don't know the gender of the author and so take the writing for its self without this consideration. This may be funny but, it's true. It seems if I do take the time to know the author, usually, they are writing from their proper perspective and really, I personally can't think of any example for the opposite.
But with all that said, I see your points. Writing as the opposite gender can be just that : ) Very cool and oh so interesting in its self : )
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I did this exercise for this subject.
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/oral-sex/how-was-your-day.aspx
i think the perspective is to girlie
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/oral-sex/how-was-your-day.aspx
i think the perspective is to girlie
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Btw, almost without exception every story I've read that was written from the perspective of the opposite gender have been guys writing as girls in an effort to appeal more to male fantasies of how the women should behave...
Wayne's (xbob) story "Dilemma" comes to mind, it was part of a series of stories he posted under the screen name Josie and was quite popular actually. In the story Josie finds herself in the "dilemma" of having to chose between a guy and a girl...and of course chooses both...
I don't know that stories written from the perspective of the opposite gender are necessarily realistic as to how that gender would feel or behave...they are usually written for other reasons...
Then again, a lot of the stories you read from the female point of view by females and vice versa are not necessarily realistic...
Wayne's (xbob) story "Dilemma" comes to mind, it was part of a series of stories he posted under the screen name Josie and was quite popular actually. In the story Josie finds herself in the "dilemma" of having to chose between a guy and a girl...and of course chooses both...
I don't know that stories written from the perspective of the opposite gender are necessarily realistic as to how that gender would feel or behave...they are usually written for other reasons...
Then again, a lot of the stories you read from the female point of view by females and vice versa are not necessarily realistic...
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One of my editors is offering a Male POV course. I am thinking of taking it. He says I don't need it but I would like to do it just so my gay erotica will not sound too girly... ;)
I am just a natural romantic... I like my /m hot, sensual and emotional...
I am just a natural romantic... I like my /m hot, sensual and emotional...
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One of my editors is offering a Male POV course. I am thinking of taking it. He says I don't need it but I would like to do it just so my gay erotica will not sound too girly... ;)
I am just a natural romantic... I like my /m hot, sensual and emotional...
Cool course : ) I wonder if you would be willing to share the exercises with us here on this thread?
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im the opposite....prefer to write from the female side.....put yourself in their shoes....But only in thought....4 " inch heels could be a challenge
Sometimes a story works out better from a different point of view. When I envisioned Clean Up On Aisle 69 it was firmly told first person from a male point of view. However when I sat down to write the first line I suddenly had this feeling that the woman should be telling the story. So I wrote it that way and am quite sure I would not have gotten all the good comments and reviews on the story had I written it from the male's point of view, because he was very sexist in his thinking, something not explored coming from the point of view of the woman who enjoyed the sexual attention.-Master Vyle
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I've written a lot of stuff from a male POV and I think I pull it off okay. But then, a lot of what I write is fairly tame, romance with sex rather than erotica, so more on the emotional side than the physical description side.
Consider who you're writing it for. I know most of my target audience will be female and they won't know if I'm getting it write or not either. What matters more then is that you're portraying something your readers will find plausible.
The important thing is to develop your characters as individuals, that way, what you describe is not from "a woman's" point of view, it is from "<insert name here>'s" point of view. Not only will this make your POV better, it will make your story better as a whole. The more your readers can connect with the character them more invested they become in their fate.
Consider who you're writing it for. I know most of my target audience will be female and they won't know if I'm getting it write or not either. What matters more then is that you're portraying something your readers will find plausible.
The important thing is to develop your characters as individuals, that way, what you describe is not from "a woman's" point of view, it is from "<insert name here>'s" point of view. Not only will this make your POV better, it will make your story better as a whole. The more your readers can connect with the character them more invested they become in their fate.
I've only recently started writing, and have a hell of a long way to go. I wrote one story from man's POV and found it so much easier. Another had the same story from both sides. I really enjoyed writing that one. I've got the itch to get another down on paper, but this one will benefit from MorganHawkes' words of wisdom. It does seem much harder to show a story than to tell it.
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I have written a few gay stories from a male point of view. The characters have all been extremely well-hung, cigar chomping macho man stereotypes, engaging in unsafe and painful sex, with an undertone of raw, sweaty savagery. I don't give the boys much beyond huge dicks, big muscles and abused assholes. It would be fun if a few of us writers got together, created a few characters and then just let our fantasies run wild. The boys create the girls and the girls create the boys, with sexism, homophobia and all manner of unacceptable behaviour given free rein.
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all of my stories have been written from the guys point of view and i have a story idea which i think will be better written from the female point of view. what are your ideas on writing from the opposite sex's point of view?
I write from both gender's POV, but I did a lot of research first.
-- One of the best books out there on just how differently men and women Think is Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray. I have it in hardback.
Other resources:
"Straight Talk to Men and Their Wives" - James Dobson
"Men, Women and Sex" - Margaret Paul, Ph.D
"Yes, Biologically Speaking, Sex Does Matter" - Karen Young Kreeger
"Gender Differences Are Real" - Frank York
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all of my stories have been written from the guys point of view and i have a story idea which i think will be better written from the female point of view. what are your ideas on writing from the opposite sex's point of view?
If nothing else, it's a fun challenge! I've written as a straight woman, straight man, gay man...really, it's not that different for me either way. Men and women more or less have the same emotions, they just express them differently. In terms of sex, it's not THAT much different. Though now that I think about it, I've written so much as a male (since most of my work is M/M), it's actually a little strange for me to write as a female now. Go figure!
So, give it a try. Have someone of the character's gender read it over and go from there.
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all of my stories have been written from the guys point of view and i have a story idea which i think will be better written from the female point of view. what are your ideas on writing from the opposite sex's point of view?
If nothing else, it's a fun challenge! I've written as a straight woman, straight man, gay man...really, it's not that different for me either way. Men and women more or less have the same emotions, they just express them differently. In terms of sex, it's not THAT much different. Though now that I think about it, I've written so much as a male (since most of my work is M/M), it's actually a little strange for me to write as a female now. Go figure!
So, give it a try. Have someone of the character's gender read it over and go from there.
Amen to that! Stepping into a character that is other than our own identity is a great exercise and good discipline to test our abilities. Why the heck not?
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I recently did this with "A Hot July 4th". I took it on as a challenge and had a lot of fun. It can be a learning experience to try and get into the opposite mind.
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Way back when, I was lucky enough to have a contest winner (see sig line) that was written in first person from a female POV (I keep getting tossed out of 'Ladies' restrooms so I must be a guy). I've also done a three-part series using the female PPOV in the third person. I agree with those who say writing the POV of the "opposite" sex can make you a better writer. Just FWIW, Joyce Carol Oates, says she sketches out eachscene using the POV of every character in the scene. Sounds like a LOT of work to me, but she has the pelts on her walls.
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When I started thinking about Aiden's Rebecca it was from a male perspective, somehow that's just how it came out. I had a lot of fun writing that one.
Really, sex and laughter do go very well together, and I wondered - and I still do - which is more important.