Advanced Wordsmith
Ladies and guys, what do u find the hardest part of writing an erotic sex story for the first time, what details do u want to get right?
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writing a sex story
Advanced Wordsmith
For me it would be describing body parts like breasts, cocks, pussies and body types
Her Royal Spriteness
get the characters right. that's the most important part. that's a serious answer, btw.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Advanced Wordsmith
What other advice can you give.
what do you mean by get your characters right?
what do you mean by get your characters right?
Her Royal Spriteness
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What other advice can you give.
what do you mean by get your characters right?
make them interesting, real, and thee dimensional. make them people someone is interested in reading about. don't make them cardboard cut outs or cliches. breath life into them.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
I cannot emphasize enough what sprite says. Even in a "quickie", it's nice to feel that there is more happening than just a bunch of clinical details over who touches what when. For me, at least, a story is sexier when I feel that there are actual people involved (which is the downfall of a lot of porn for me) rather than just bodies.
Actually, I sometimes find the sex the hardest part to write. I am not content with just insert slot A into tab B, but want to reflect on the experience and how it affects the characters. Not to mention, try to mix things up in how I describe the action. Making sex really, truly sexy can be hard work.
Actually, I sometimes find the sex the hardest part to write. I am not content with just insert slot A into tab B, but want to reflect on the experience and how it affects the characters. Not to mention, try to mix things up in how I describe the action. Making sex really, truly sexy can be hard work.
Active Ink Slinger
I can only imagine that it's different for everyone on the writing as well as the reading side. Don't sweat the details of what people believe is the "proper" way to write a story, and let your fingers take you there. When you're done and you read what you wrote and become aroused, you did well.
Orgasm Aficionado
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For me it would be describing body parts like breasts, cocks, pussies and body types
You can write a perfectly good erotic story without providing any details about body parts. Simply let your readers fill in the blanks with their own imaginations.
Active Ink Slinger
I think my biggest challenge is pacing. I struggle with little things, like how long does it take to insert something. I also have an issue of over describing at times (gotta love editing).
Now based upon the following - I must be doing something wrong - LMAO
My writing never gets me aroused. When I read it, I am always editing.
Now based upon the following - I must be doing something wrong - LMAO
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When you're done and you read what you wrote and become aroused, you did well.
My writing never gets me aroused. When I read it, I am always editing.
I write to get things out of my head...
I've been writing erotica for four years now (published elsewhere) and find the key to writing a story that gets wide readership is to create a world that is believable, that the reader could imagine him or herself in. I love putting my characters into awkward situations and seeing how they cope. It almost always ends up with a sex scene and I find those easier to write if they just involve the classic MF situation. Once the numbers start to go up, the danger, as seeker4 says, is that it all becomes a bit mechanical and keeping track of who is doing what to whom can be a nightmare!
Advanced Wordsmith
There's a lot of great advice here.
Characters are the most important element in your story. Before you write, sit down a figure out in detail who they are - their personalities, likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, their virtuous characteristics, and their flaws. It's okay to tell the reader some of that, but you should really be figuring out how you show the reader who these people are.
Shyboy is right for a lot of writing. But stories don't necessarily have to be in a believable world. There's a great deal of fantasy out there. But generally readers want to be able to identify with the world they are reading about. I have a series of seven stories and the last four are set in the Chicago area. I remember once a long time ago changing planes at O'Hare, but other than that I've never been in Chicago. It's one of the advantages of the world we live in that now you can visit a place virtually. Readers of mine from the Chicago area have gotten in touch to let me know they felt very at home in those stories.
And someone mentioned about writing sex scenes. I suppose when I started writing the writing of sex scenes was a primary motivator. But I quickly got past that. One of the first stories I wrote - just because of how the plot went - had a great deal of sex in it. And I quickly found myself thinking, 'Oh, God, not again.' Writing the sex came to be, not a burden I suppose, but the least agreeable task. I soon found that making a plot and characters work, especially over a long story, to be what motivates me to write.
Characters are the most important element in your story. Before you write, sit down a figure out in detail who they are - their personalities, likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, their virtuous characteristics, and their flaws. It's okay to tell the reader some of that, but you should really be figuring out how you show the reader who these people are.
Shyboy is right for a lot of writing. But stories don't necessarily have to be in a believable world. There's a great deal of fantasy out there. But generally readers want to be able to identify with the world they are reading about. I have a series of seven stories and the last four are set in the Chicago area. I remember once a long time ago changing planes at O'Hare, but other than that I've never been in Chicago. It's one of the advantages of the world we live in that now you can visit a place virtually. Readers of mine from the Chicago area have gotten in touch to let me know they felt very at home in those stories.
And someone mentioned about writing sex scenes. I suppose when I started writing the writing of sex scenes was a primary motivator. But I quickly got past that. One of the first stories I wrote - just because of how the plot went - had a great deal of sex in it. And I quickly found myself thinking, 'Oh, God, not again.' Writing the sex came to be, not a burden I suppose, but the least agreeable task. I soon found that making a plot and characters work, especially over a long story, to be what motivates me to write.
Active Ink Slinger
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Ladies and guys, what do u find the hardest part of writing an erotic sex story for the first time, what details do u want to get right?
I just want the story to feel genuine and that's why most of what I write is derived from real life or it's a true story. In my fiction I have the practice of reading my dialogue with someone else so what's said in the story sounds like something that would be said in real life.
The result is usually something most readers can relate to.
Active Ink Slinger
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Ladies and guys, what do u find the hardest part of writing an erotic sex story for the first time, what details do u want to get right?
I'm a first time writer. I haven't written a story for nearly 50 years, when I was at school!
The sex was easy, it was how they got to that situation and keeping it believeable that was hardest.
Editing was boring and the final read through made me laugh rather than aroused me. I just wondered how filthy my mind could get!
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by naughtynurse
the first sentence is frequently the hardest for me.
That killed me, I rewrote it so many times and now I wish I could do it again. I even got to the point of "Once upon a time" lol.
If there's a follow up it seems easier but the first line of a new story is difficult.
Internet Philosopher
The most difficult part is creating flowing prose. It would be easy to write a tale in a series of statements but, really, no one wants to get off on something so dry. Making it exciting requires the sentences to merge and flow like the blood in our veins. It must be a pulsing, wet and alive creation that devours the reader and consumes any thought other than their desire.
Expressing what the readers mind sees is a skill the goes beyond telling them what someone looks like. I've written entire stories without giving anything other that vague images of the persons involved. I rather focus their minds eye on those things we tend to feast on in passion. The tell tale glistening of moisture on their skin or our lovers sharp intake of breath when we do something that gives them pleasure. This, to me, is what let's erotica slip into my mind and heat that powerful force we call arousal
Expressing what the readers mind sees is a skill the goes beyond telling them what someone looks like. I've written entire stories without giving anything other that vague images of the persons involved. I rather focus their minds eye on those things we tend to feast on in passion. The tell tale glistening of moisture on their skin or our lovers sharp intake of breath when we do something that gives them pleasure. This, to me, is what let's erotica slip into my mind and heat that powerful force we call arousal
Active Ink Slinger
I agree with the comments about developing characters with sufficient depth that readers can suspend belief and 'enter' the story. It's also important to find a main character's individual voice through actions, dialogue, and emotion. Another angle I strive for in my main characters is dramatic conflict, meaning a challenge or obstacle to overcome. It can be emotional, physical, subtle, obvious, internal, or external, but has to be there, otherwise he/she is just going through the motions. If I can get these elements in place, then, when I write the sex scenes, the sex is hopefully a facet of my character's personality - a means rather than an end.
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Sophisticate
I agree with all that has already been said. Keep it plausible. Describe things in a way that brings your readers into the story. Please, please do not provide us with what we call a laundry list of the main characters' attributes (which are usually improbable) e.g. She was a redhead with green eyes, 5'6", with 34DD breasts, a 25" waist and 34" hips, rounded ass like Kim K. He was 6'2", handsome, black hair, brown eyes, chiseled torso and 9" dick. Allow the details of your characters' appearances come out as you tell the story. We hate those lists, probable or not.
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The best and easiest way to understand what to do is to read stories that have been recognized with Recommended Reads or Editor's Picks. RRs are given by moderators independently as they read submissions and posted stories here. EPs are voted on by a panel of moderators and writers and are the highest award for excellence here. Take lessons from these writers and you will not go wrong.
In my opinion the hardest part is starting the story and establishing the context, characters ect. I've always had problems with beginning a story ever since I first started writing I can't explain why. Thinking of how to begin is just very difficult for me. Once I've started though I find it easy to develop from there, the ideas just flow from my finger tips so to speak...