Then perhaps the "Get a life" comment is apt lol
It really depends on what you mean by them not sounding like other sex scenes. Here's something to think about: did you know that, except for proper names, E-V-E-R-Y book ever written or that will be written can be found in the dictionary? Sex is sex: the penis goes in the pussy (ass or mouth), is pumped in and out, then climax. There, EVERY sex scene! The key to writing a memorable scene is the use of the other senses! What are the smells? How do they look at each other? How does it feel? What do they hear? Sex is NOT about pussies, penises, boobs, butts, or asses, though they are involved. Tell me, when you have had sex, what was the most important aspect of it? For me, it has always been what I was feeling; the emotions being evoked in me. Descriptives are the key to ANY scene, whether it is sex, a car chase, combat, or anything similar. And I'm not just talking about his "huge, throbbing cock" or her "ginormous boobs". Get inside the characters' heads! Tell us their intimate thoughts and feelings. Are they simply overwhelmed by what they arfe feeling for their partner or is the sex so lack-luster that painting the bedroom ceiling would be more exciting? What motivates ANY character---or real person---is NOT written on their foreheads (Oh, look. He wants to be rich and she's a gold-digger). As to your statement that your sex life is not (or was not) very exciting; one question: was it exciting AT THAT MOMENT? If yes, then you have had an exciting sex life. Do NOT equate excitement with the number of notches you have (or lack thereof) on your bedpost. If it is inspiration that you lack, just read more of the stories here. Or Google some images of things you find "hot" or that turn you on. Better yet, just let inspiration find you. Too many people make the mistake of trying to force things to happen----and it shows up in their writting, leaving the reader with a kind of half-satisfied feeling, much like a guy who gets his rocks off but not the woman.
I wish you good fortune and clear thoughts.
Ltirashin: Thank you for your help. I do try to get into the characters' heads. That's why I enjoyed writing my other stories ("Jenna & Keith" and "Pam Was Bored"). Like you, your stories are very original because of your sci-fi/fantasy motif. BTW, when I say my sex life isn't exciting, it's that I'm not very adventurous in the bedroom. I read all these stories and I'm thinking to myself, I've never done anything like this or that before. But I like what you say about using all five senses. It's not something I would have thought of. I have similar issues with my non-erotic work. I was writing what I hoped would be a novel when I ran into a block that I couldn't seem to get past. I think part of it is that I get too frustrated too quickly. Gotta stop doing that.
As for Tonic, Bite me! lol
I think emotion, natural dialogue and some kind of inner-conflict are the things that make a good sex scene. If the reader cares about your characters they won't be too bothered about whether or not your story is unique. As Ltirashin mentioned, it's all been done before.
If you feel your stories are all starting to sound alike, you might need to work more on developing your characters. When your characters all have their own distinct personalities, each one of your stories will have a different feel to it.
Actually, Lisa, I think it was the Bare Naked Ladies who said "It's All Been Done Before" (luv that song)
i like that idea, nicola. it can help those of us who get writer's block.
Any help would be appreciated, but please don't say I should write from my own personal experiences... my sex life is not what you'd call exciting.
