I have been married 15 years this month. Our sex life has grown and evolved along with us. We got married when I was 19 and he was 22. I know now, I am a submissive but without anyone to wield that power over me. Occasionally I get “rough” sex. But I crave him stepping into this role, I want him calling the shots, I want to be punished, I want him to not only be my lover and partner but master and commander as well. I’ve shared this with him a while ago, and while our sex life is really and truly good, I’m left feeling like there is just a little something missing. But he doesn’t. He chalks it up to me being in my prime and him not, and he likes things the way they are. He loves and cherishes me, he supports me and everything else in our life right now is good. But he rarely takes a super active role in our sex life. I give a lot, I don’t necessarily get the same amount of attention in return.
Other than talking to him again and hoping for the best, what else can I do? What would you do?
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Well BDSM is based on communication, without it the other pieces are almost impossible to bring together.
Talk to him and explain how you feel.
Stick to I's and don't use You's.
Explain what exactly you want him to do.
Sometimes it helps to find videos but a lot of them are dreadful.
Don't jump in the deep end, go slow and add extra bits when you're comfortable
Also remember that not everyone wants BDSM in their relationship.
You may have to accept that he won't provide that aspect, which means you either put your desires in print to let them out of your head, or you go find a dungeon club and get someone to look after the BDSM elements.
Good luck and I hope this helped.
Whatever was posted is always meant in love and respect never to offend.
I'm also highly likely to have posted this from a phone so there may be typos or odd word changes, auto correct can be a pain.
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Thank you, I didn’t take anything you said offensively. My own writing has helped, maybe one of these days I’ll let him read it. I’m not sure I *truly* know exactly what I want, I just know what I feel, and what theoretically sounds good. What turns me on in my mind, and what I do is myself wishing for. I’m willing to accept whatever he chooses to give me, or is able to. Thank you again and happy new year to you!
my wife was never satisfied with my little dick we quite having sex together. and i became a sissy for real men
Time to have an open relationship.
We give each other whatever the other wants, we want a hot marriage so we do whatever it takes. And we do mean whatever, we have both done some pretty craZy things to keep it all going. Tit for tat we always say. If you want more go for it but be willing to give in return.
