I am a 48 year old man married to a 45 year old woman. I am still relatively healthy, and have a healthy sex drive for my age ( or even perhaps slightly above average). My wife on the other hand has experienced a rather steep decline in her sex drive. She thinks it has to do with the meds she is taking for depression and seizures ( she was recently diagnosed with adult onset epilepsy).She has gotten to the point where she cannot even achieve an orgasm anymore! In talking with her doctors, they have offered very little assistance in suggestions for anything she can do to try to augment her libido. Needless to say, this has severly hampered her interest in having or enjoying sex. Might you know of any supplements that could help to augment her sex drive?Or any other ideas? It has become frustrating for her, and me!
Thank you so much for your replies. Sadly, your responses confirm what I was already suspecting. I will do some research on the drugs she is on, but it is apparent to me that one of the side affects is diminished libido. Unfortunately, like you Jaycox, these are drugs she needs to be on. Thank God I have found Lush, I think I will be needing many of the services provided here!
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My wife has lost her libido also. Now it's just companionship with her. But I want and need sex. Any suggestions? Do I try to have an affair? How?? Or should I just rely on the internet and masturbation? Steven
All us guys must be in the same situation. I'm 58, wife is 54 and we haven't had any relations in over 3 years. It is so hard for me day to day that not being touched or kissed. She has fully no desires. Anything I've tried to romance does nothing. I'm at a point of looking for another lady just so we can hook up now and then, don't want to cheat but I still have desires and needs that need some help. Help me?
A lot of times it is hormones out of wack fellas. Find a good alternative doc and see If they can help. I have heard great things.
Unfortunately, I had the opposite problem... And my ex refused to see a physician, it eventually tore our marriage apart. Very sad?
Women are not like men... I don't think most men get that. We don't wake up ready to fuck, unless previously stimulated or ridiculously in love or lust. Meds, kids, careers, and our hubby's all play a factor in this.
Most guys can't understand that a cuddle to us is damn near as good as getting fucked well, by a man we want to be fucked well by.
My suggestion would be to talk to her about what you can do to make it more engaging and enjoyable for her. But the unfortunate part for OP is that she may not give him the response he wants to hear. Which will further fuel the lack of intimacy.
You might want to consider being a sugar daddy. You'll get what you want sexually without the intimacy issues. Younger women are looking forward to experiences. Older women are looking for comfort and security. Especially at that age.... you might never get a good orgasm out of her again.
I'm a compulsive record keeper. based on the last 15 of notes about other peoples love life. 40s is when wives start loosing interest in sex. the options for the husband is to play around or move on. here is the interesting part. most of the ones who chose to play around want to do it discretely enough to keep their marriage. apparently an extremely large percentage of husbands experimentally play with their little chums when they were young. at this stage of their marriage they start thinking about the carefree fun they had. since they don't want a divorce they revert back to childhood and start playing with their new chums. somehow they justify in their minds that fooling with other guys isn't cheating. most start off receiving oral and slowly transits into giving.
