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What does Bi-curious really mean?

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At the risk of making a truly bad pun, the definition is open-ended.

An important question to ask if you're asking yourself what bi-curious really means is this; "What does it mean to you?"
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I think the term is self explanitory. I'M curious but have not experienced it. Wether on a concious level or not, I think it is also saying I would like to try it & under the rite cercumstances I probablly would.

Surely it can also mean that you wonder about it but don't want to find out. I mean I'm curious why people get off on BDSM pain but I don't want to try it. I think it's more like a fantasy that can be realized if the inclination is there.
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To me Bi-Curious is the want to be with the same sex, the desire lust and passion is there, but the opportunity hasn't arisen.
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I know this thread is kind of a old one but hopefuly still on going, but yes I think you are so right Princess.
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To me, it's just the experimentation with your orientation ... you haven't had sex with the same gender as yours, but you fantasize and look forward for it ... it may look interesting to you.
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It's basically what it sounds like. Someone who is curious about sexual relations with the same sex, while not necessarily having acted upon that curiosity. So like me for instance, I consider myself to be straight, but I have had a few initiate moments with other girls. Does that mean I want to be with them again/more? No. It just means that I find the idea of it intriguing.
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Has anyone tried the dictionary...?
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For me, bi-curious means not attracted to the same sex in a sexual way but willing to do sexual activities with the same sex just for fun without looking for a relationship. In other words, Can have fun with but not wanting a relationship with someone of the same sex. That's my personal opinion.

? Then you wouldn't be curious, you would just be along for the ride. "Fun" & sexual activities with someone you are not attracted to?^ I mean, you would at least be attracted to the sexual appeal aspect and "feeling" and thus attracted 'somehow' sexually, right? I don't know... I guess. I wonder. Hmmm. (@__@)

Relationship or no, outright experimeting and having sexual relations or no, whether there is opportunity or not, I think "bi-curious" is someone who does not know how they feel about their sexuality yet and they are contemplating their feelings. Maybe they DO think about it (like bi-sexually or homosexually) and get turned on or aroused at the thoughts and anatomy of the same sex yet are not sure about how far this desire goes? Maybe they do dabble (?) or not, or would (?)

I'm not Olivia, but I think people before me who said that it is the "curiosity" factor were spot on. Some said- they do not want a relationship with same sex, or they have not acted on those impulses, but to me maybe they have or have not, would or would not, but it is still in the "thinking" and experimental stage which is prior to~

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bi-cu·ri·ous
bīˈkyo͝orēəs/
adjective
(of a heterosexual person) interested in having a sexual experience with a person of the same sex.

That's the definition that shows up on Google.

And it really is that simple, when it boils down to it. It's not a determining factor of your sexuality. Bicuriosity doesn't always mean you'll end up being bisexual. It just means you're open to the idea of a same sex experience. But after trying it, you may find out it's not all that enjoyable and it just reinforces your heterosexuality. Or it can be the best thing ever, and you realize you're in fact bisexual or in some cases, homosexual.

For reasons unknown to me, bicurious tends to have some negative connotations. But we were all curious about something at one point or another. And if those urges become stronger, just go for it. Don't hang out in bicurious limbo forever. If the opportunity presents itself take it, and do so in a way that you feel most comfortable. What's the worst that could happen?

No sense in living with regret, especially with something as important as your sex life.

Yours truly,
~Olivia
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It means you are more enlightened, more clever, and more imaginative than other people...

(Even if you never really go there...)

xx Steph
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Hmmm...Curious??
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Hmmm...Curious??

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Careful, it killed the cat!


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xx SF
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xx SF

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curious just implies interest....lingering interest, but crucially without direct knowledge.
Once direct knowledge is obtained, logically a decision has to be made and another state obtained.
Why on earth there should be any negative connotations to this process is beyond me.
Other than the regrettable tendency of some people to influence others by exploiting anxiety and insecurity....which is of course common but nonetheless despicable.
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It has nothing to do with this right?




okay, okay, I'm still buzzed from last night...
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I think this means different things for men and women.

In my experience, certainly among my peers, all girls are to some extent bi-curious.

Women are naturally more touchy feely, huggy and kissy with each other, so it's not a massive step to have some curiosity about sex or foreplay with another girl.

I have never met a guy who claimed to be bi-curious. At college and uni, I always seemed to attract typical anything in a skirt type of guys. They were loud, outgoing, played football and read Nuts and Zoo etc etc. If any of the guys we hung out with were bi-curious, then they did a good job of concealing it.

I imagine that most straight men aren't prone to being bi-curious, but that is based on absolutely nothing, so feel free to shoot me down in flames

Not sure if I've actually answered the question, but it's kind of self-explanatory.

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I think this means different things for men and women.

In my experience, certainly among my peers, all girls are to some extent bi-curious.

Women are naturally more touchy feely, huggy and kissy with each other, so it's not a massive step to have some curiosity about sex or foreplay with another girl.

I have never met a guy who claimed to be bi-curious. At college and uni, I always seemed to attract typical anything in a skirt type of guys. They were loud, outgoing, played football and read Nuts and Zoo etc etc. If any of the guys we hung out with were bi-curious, then they did a good job of concealing it.

I imagine that most straight men aren't prone to being bi-curious, but that is based on absolutely nothing, so feel free to shoot me down in flames

Not sure if I've actually answered the question, but it's kind of self-explanatory.

Danny x


I'm HEARING this and adding my

MY same-sex MEANDERINGS happened in the halcyon days of the Great Ecxstasy Explosion of the Late '90s... At the time, I was Super-Straight. Was I Bi-Curious? Well, I wouldn't have thought so. DID I sleep with other Blokes? (I so DID!) Did I LIKE it? (Well, I didn't NOT LIKE IT...)

I can hear DPW's laughter from here...

It ISN'T as culturally acceptable for a "straight" man to admit to feelings of sexual curiousity as it it for women. Yet in my experience a LOT of straight men have these thoughts/feelings yet would NEVER dare to confess them. The drug culture at that time allowed, (indeed encouraged) a degree of sexual licentiousness in every way. The DRUG didn't make us Bi-Curious but it allowed those of us who WERE to get on with it...

Still, the prevailing image (among straight MEN, invariably) of same sex curiousity among WOMEN is that it's kind of "cute"... But PERISH the thought that a MAN might admit to such a thing! THAT MEANS YOU'RE GAY!!!!!!

Except it doesn't. It means you like sex, you're an adventurous bastard and you'll try anything once. (Or in my case three times... Okay, four!)

Straight MEN are THREATENED by the notion because it asks them a question they'd rather not think about. I've NEVER had a girlfriend who was REMOTELY bothered by the fact that I've sucked dick. (And of course I've had girls who swung both ways. None of my business once you don't fuck me over, frankly...)

My own experience, if it thought me ANYTHING thought me this: Sexuality is about a fuck of a lot more than sex...

And I STILL have a mad crush on James Cameron Mitchell!

xx Steve
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I'm HEARING this and adding my

MY same-sex MEANDERINGS happened in the halcyon days of the Great Ecxstasy Explosion of the Late '90s... At the time, I was Super-Straight. Was I Bi-Curious? Well, I wouldn't have thought so. DID I sleep with other Blokes? (I so DID!) Did I LIKE it? (Well, I didn't NOT LIKE IT...)

I can hear DPW's laughter from here...

It ISN'T as culturally acceptable for a "straight" man to admit to feelings of sexual curiousity as it it for women. Yet in my experience a LOT of straight men have these thoughts/feelings yet would NEVER dare to confess them. The drug culture at that time allowed, (indeed encouraged) a degree of sexual licentiousness in every way. The DRUG didn't make us Bi-Curious but it allowed those of us who WERE to get on with it...

Still, the prevailing image (among straight MEN, invariably) of same sex curiousity among WOMEN is that it's kind of "cute"... But PERISH the thought that a MAN might admit to such a thing! THAT MEANS YOU'RE GAY!!!!!!

Except it doesn't. It means you like sex, you're an adventurous bastard and you'll try anything once. (Or in my case three times... Okay, four!)

Straight MEN are THREATENED by the notion because it asks them a question they'd rather not think about. I've NEVER had a girlfriend who was REMOTELY bothered by the fact that I've sucked dick. (And of course I've had girls who swung both ways. None of my business once you don't fuck me over, frankly...)

My own experience, if it thought me ANYTHING thought me this: Sexuality is about a fuck of a lot more than sex...

And I STILL have a mad crush on James Cameron Mitchell!

xx Steve

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I quite agree that same sex experiences doesn't make you gay. That soubriquet goes much deeper, to your emotions. I always say about when I slept with women it was a gay guy having straight sex. Did I enjoy it? Well I had 2 girlfriends, both for over 2 years and we fucked like rabbits.
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I have never met a guy who claimed to be bi-curious. At college and uni, I always seemed to attract typical anything in a skirt type of guys. They were loud, outgoing, played football and read Nuts and Zoo etc etc. If any of the guys we hung out with were bi-curious, then they did a good job of concealing it.

I imagine that most straight men aren't prone to being bi-curious, but that is based on absolutely nothing, so feel free to shoot me down in flames

Not sure if I've actually answered the question, but it's kind of self-explanatory.

Danny x

I'm pretty certain that some of them were, at least, curious.
I slept with a few guys from both the rugby and football teams at uni, and I wasn't even out! A couple of them acted super straight, even with my gaydar, I was surprised. Pleasantly in a way, because they had nice bodies, but they were crap in the sack. Too many hang-ups or too much guilt, not sure which. I'm sure I wasn't the last guy that they went with.
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You could just be hetero have no attraction for the same gender and wonder (as I am a guy) what a woman could feel to have a dick in her mouth or in her ass.... feel, the skin of a dick, the warmth, pulsation, to touch an other dick and masturbate it ....give pleasure....and so on... you are curious about the feeling. that's my definition of bi-curious...
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Attraction towards same sex along with opposite sex but yet to experience the sex with same sex
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Most women are curious about what it would be like to have sex with someone of their own gender. These days It seems fashionable for girls to declare themselves as bi-curious. Surprisingly few list their orientation as straight. Maybe it's called keeping your options open.
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You could just be hetero have no attraction for the same gender and wonder (as I am a guy) what a woman could feel to have a dick in her mouth or in her ass.... feel, the skin of a dick, the warmth, pulsation, to touch an other dick and masturbate it ....give pleasure....and so on... you are curious about the feeling. that's my definition of bi-curious...

Merde alors! Your explanation just gave me an erection, lol.
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I'm pretty certain that some of them were, at least, curious.
I slept with a few guys from both the rugby and football teams at uni, and I wasn't even out! A couple of them acted super straight, even with my gaydar, I was surprised. Pleasantly in a way, because they had nice bodies, but they were crap in the sack. Too many hang-ups or too much guilt, not sure which. I'm sure I wasn't the last guy that they went with.


I don't know how you could know that. Surely the guys you went with were beyond curious if you got as far as getting in bed? It sounds like you're comparing your experiences and extrapolating it across every situation.

I'm not saying that you're 100% wrong though. I just don't know how I would tell if a guy was bi-curious.

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I don't know how you could know that. Surely the guys you went with were beyond curious if you got as far as getting in bed? It sounds like you're comparing your experiences and extrapolating it across every situation.

I'm not saying that you're 100% wrong though. I just don't know how I would tell if a guy was bi-curious.






You wouldn't, that's my point. I didn't approach as many guys at uni as approached me. Some I would never thought would be curious.
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Merde alors! Your explanation just gave me an erection, lol.


For example about your erection (and I know that you're joking about it), confort my point. you could be hetero, feel nothing for the same gender and the emotion you give to it but stay curious about about a dick (without the guy aroud to be frank and more specific) and the feeling it could bring ... lol.

For me what could interest maybe a bi-curious is what the same gender could bring in emotions, sensations and feeling...

Voila ma vision des choses....
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Recent literature suggests that some (quite a few apparently) females change their orientation during the third and fourth decades of life.
This may explain why so many younger women list themselves as bi-curious;..... proper bisexuality or lesbianism develops later.

With males this appears to be different, but interestingly male on male sex occurs more commonly in all male institutions and situations where female company is either absent of at a high premium.
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Probably been said before but Bi curious imo means ur interested in the same sex but have not as yet gone down that road but would like to explore that avenue?

Unlike above I don't think there is an age definition to this I think in most instances its lkely something you have always wanted to explore but until recently there was much prejudice so maybe u put it to the back of ur mind. That said though im straight so what would I know?
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