Great posting. I can very much relate to some of the information.
I can also relate to much of this. I have always been very sexual since the first time I masturbated as teen. I married at a young age (20yo) and my husband was very attentive sexually. He would always go down on me even if he wasnt very good at it. But at least he would make the effort. And he was alwys ready when I was. Our sex life was pretty good until I was 23 and my second daughter was born. Then he seemed very reluctant to go down on me and pretty much lost interest in sex. I would still suck him, but mainly because I enjoyed it. Our sex life went from several times a week to once a month(except for me blowing him as I masturbated) if I was lucky and was very vanilla (not that he was very adventurous to start with). And once he came, it was off to watch Sportscenter or sleep. And once my third daughter was born, our sex life was pretty non-existent. The only time he got sexual was when he drank, but unfortunately thats when he got abusive too.
Well to cut a long story short, He never cheated, one of the faults he didnt have. He just had no interest in sex anymore. And I also never cheated. I put up with a sexless marriage and the abuse for another 5 years until I got the courage to get a divorce. But thats another story.
It doesn't have to be that way. I've been married to the same woman for 40 years and we still very much enjoy sex and are more interested in our partner's enjoyment than our own. Of course it isn't as frequent now, but that is not because lack of interest.
I got married at the end of last April and we had dated off and on since 2004. I can't imagine the honeymoon wearing off. She's the sexiest creature on the planet!
As Nikki stated, often when the child(ren) arrive, the sex life seems to take a back seat, unless both parties make it a priority.
Many of us, felt like Buz .... whoa - sexy and adventurous, but when life evolves with the pressures of children, the economy and becoming less focussed on the priority of a marriage - the honeymoon is indeed over.
What's the solution besides not having children, winning the lottery and the fear of catching some STD?
Maybe remembering and taking time for the one you have chosen to spend your life with.
She does want kids. She brings up the number "five" and I answer 'two." I bet they would could into your sex time. Damn.
First let me say that I have never seen an oyster that I wanted to eat and never saw a pussy that I didn't want to eat. There is an old saying that goes: "Show me a guy that won't eat his SO's pussy and I'll take her away from him!" Secondly, if a guy expects his SO to perform oral sex on him but refuses to eat her pussy is like the guy that expects his SO to swallow his cum but won't eat it himself, he does not deserve to have a cock!
I've marked my calendar to remind me to spice things up at seven years!
After two failed marriages both to men who were far more vanilla than myself, I can honestly say that very quickly within the first year of marriage I was left very unsatisfied. Neither man was into giving oral, my last husband had not even kissed me during the last 9 years of marriage, I made many attempts to discuss it, constantly initiated sex, gave clear instruction on what I wanted, they were happy having there own needs met. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for last 2 1/2 years whose sexual desires and needs very closely match my own, I think that is the key to a long and gratifying sexual relationship. Your partners desires and needs should be on par with your own. We are still like a couple of hormonal teenagers. I honestly can not imagine either of us getting bored or feeling unsatisfied.
After two failed marriages both to men who were far more vanilla than myself, I can honestly say that very quickly within the first year of marriage I was left very unsatisfied. Neither man was into giving oral, my last husband had not even kissed me during the last 9 years of marriage, I made many attempts to discuss it, constantly initiated sex, gave clear instruction on what I wanted, they were happy having there own needs met. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for last 2 1/2 years whose sexual desires and needs very closely match my own, I think that is the key to a long and gratifying sexual relationship. Your partners desires and needs should be on par with your own. We are still like a couple of hormonal teenagers. I honestly can not imagine either of us getting bored or feeling unsatisfied.
Goodness, honestly I didn't think it posted so I kept clicking. If, someone can delete the stutter posts for me I would appreciate it.
After two failed marriages both to men who were far more vanilla than myself, I can honestly say that very quickly within the first year of marriage I was left very unsatisfied. Neither man was into giving oral, my last husband had not even kissed me during the last 9 years of marriage, I made many attempts to discuss it, constantly initiated sex, gave clear instruction on what I wanted, they were happy having there own needs met. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for last 2 1/2 years whose sexual desires and needs very closely match my own, I think that is the key to a long and gratifying sexual relationship. Your partners desires and needs should be on par with your own. We are still like a couple of hormonal teenagers. I honestly can not imagine either of us getting bored or feeling unsatisfied.
Sorry, the site was misbehaving, I didn't mean stutter post.
I had that problem for awhile. I talked with husband about why he wasn't performing on me. He has a jaw issue which makes it hard for him. He also said it didn't smell well down there sometimes. He makes sure I still get pleasure even though he can not orally please me very often. Communication does work sometimes.
I dont know my sex life was great even after the boys were born. Me and My wife parted ways over other things it had nothing to do with sex or cheating. Great Sex alone will not keep a marriage together, If that is all you have together is great sex then a large part of why you are married may be missing.
I have issues like this I have been with my husband for 3 years and suddenly sex is much less regular and is a roll on roll off affair. I am a very kinky very sexual person and this is very frustrating for me. We have talked and talked about what it is we want but when I start to initiate the things he says he wants he just says he is not in the mood or (get this) he's got a headache. It drives me mad I even gave him the ultimatum either step up and help me sort it or I was going to look else where to be fulfilled. He improved for all of a week and then just went back to his old ways telling me if I looked elsewhere he'd divorce me. I have tried different positions, porn, writing erotica, suggesting threesome (girl girl guy), dressing up, strip teasing, switching into dominatrix, introducing toys, role play, acting out his number 1 fantasy even offerring head with no need to repay the favour but nothing has worked! I even sat naked on his lap grinding into his crotch telling him graphically what i wanted to do to him and with him only to be pushed off because he wasn't in the mood. Can anyone help me? please I'm totally shot my self confidence is 0 and I have no more ideas but I love him and don't want to loose us because of sex
I am very surprised this is an issue. If this was 1940 and a couples first sexual experience was the Wedding night. I could understand the lack of sexual exploration which left many games in the bedroom for a later time. Maybe not have been true for all even way back then. Granny did Grandpa eat you?
But now in the 21st Century, most all have tried the sex games. If he did not eat you when you were going hot and heavy nearly every night, why on earth would you think he would suddenly find this luxury and think it was one of the best things ever.
Even when my guy has been away for a while and gets home exhausted and find me about to the climb the walls, I always know he will go down on me for as long as it takes until I am completely satisfied. And some of those times it does take a while.
Of course he loves the taste of pussy and has gone down on me since the second date. If being eaten is important to you ladies and your guy not so much I strongly suggest you keep looking. There are lots of guys and lots of them will buy a girl a ring.
Our sex life was amazing before though he was perfect and it suddenly dissapeared x
I've been married for almost 15yrs. I can completely understand. I wanted more sex, hell I needed it even after our only child was born. There are other issues, but to make a long story short i started looking online. I never met anyone from here, but often would have phone sex w/ the same guy until one night he caught me. I did have some of the best sex ever with him, but it was short lived. That was 4yrs ago and to this day he likes to remind me of how that night ripped out his heart.
So I suggest as difficult as it may be is talking to him. Set up a time to talk. Make it about him as him questions, do not challenge or confront him it will just shut him down. Try to set it so it makes him think he is coming up with the ideas how to make things better, even if ur the one making the suggestions. I honestly wish I would have talked to my husband instead.
No sex after marriage? I believe it was the philosophical Prof. Elmer Fudd who once said "Thewe's something vewwy sqwewwy going on awound hewe."
sex is a huge deal to the 1 who is the receiver of the zero part.....
what sex u had before i do...cut it half...
that is marriage
so fix it before...or you WILL reget it later
i did 17 years...of it
But reality of two marriages, yeah, it gets old and stale and the children are a big distraction and perfect excuse when you're not in the mood. Buz, keep it spicy throughout the years and you won't have to mark your calendar.
