You really are Gorgeous stop chasing him and he will soon realize that i'ts him that needs to do the chasing. As has been said already there's plenty of guy's out there who would give there right arm to be with you.
I saw your post and thought I would just say that it isnt you. My ex done that to me and I thought the same thing. Found out he was cheating, now that doesnt mean your BF is doing the same thing. My ex was bipolar and refused to take his meds. maybe your guy just likes to have his ego stroked. believe it or not some men tend to need to feel that a woman desires them. Try talking it out and not arguing. If that doesnt work then seeing is believing. Show him wheather it be being a carbon copy of him. But make sure you are reading the signs right. I can not really say since I dont know his age or anything about him. Ex: occupation, stressors in his life, things like this. Some men are just plain wore out after working at some jobs. My friends hubby works construction. When he comes home he just wants supper and a nice comfy bed. Look at the broader side and weigh in all possiblities.
Thinking it`s your fault for his feelings for you is a trap that you must never get into. You are very beautiful and sexy. There are plenty of guys that would treat you like a goddess.
Maybe he just has something on his mind? Or, he may feel that you're more interested in sex than having a relationship with him? The more you come hard at him, the more you might be driving him away; at least, that's the way it seems.
I suggest having a real heart-to-heart talk with him and finding out the real problem since he's the one you're in a relationship with; I know you've tried talking to him before, but I think you need to remind him that communication between the two of you is what's gonna keep the relationship going and that right now the relationship needs a bit of communication. Sometimes, people need that to snap them back into reality from whatever is distracting them.
And honestly, a lot of guys aren't that interested in sex. Maybe your bf is like this? I know a lot of guys who were never really into being intimate, but has he always been this way? If so, then why are you expecting him to suddenly change?
It's a number of things that you should consider and bring to him in conversation. Just remember to come from a place of hurt and not from a place of aggression and accusations.
Thanks for the advice guys!
NEVER beg for what you want, move to someone else who will be more than happy to treat you well. Sure, you should always go for what you want but if you're banging your head against a wall to get any sort of attention- let it go. I was engaged to a man for 3 years and had to do the same.. drop him like a hot pancake. I knew nothing was wrong with ME, he just acted entitled, controlling, and it fucked with my head. I'm sure you're a lovely gorgeous looking girl, please don't settle for second best when you can have someone who is as mutually crazy for you as you are for them. Healthy relationships are the best kind! Oh, and no one can make you feel inferior without your consent so don't allow them to get under your skin. Xx
Don't buy into his bull, chances are in the past he's used you. Get all you can in other ways and get out.
married to man who didnt want sex
it is their problem..not yours
tried therapy...he had a hang up
but see if it is work...or if he is stressing about something or even weight gain causes men to stop it
but to me..the fact is this
why beat yourself up...if there are no kids involved or a marriage to dissolve
tell him unless the sex increases...you are done
and trust me..you will meet a guy who will want u 24/7 and be a good guy
you are sexy..and worthy of love...hugs
The one question that I haven't seen asked is, how often do you want sex? A lot of people came up with real suggestions that took into consideration his mental and physical states. Those avenues should be explored, on the other hand, if you are looking to have sex multiple times daily, the reality of it is that you may have just worn him out. You do need to communicate with each other in a way that does not put pressure on each other.
Another thing that you should think about is how you can fix your low self esteem issues. If you were to feel better about yourself, you may not need the constant validation that you are looking for from him through sex. The same thing goes for him. If he has some issues that he is experiencing, he too needs to work on fixing them so that he is more receptive to your needs be they self esteem or sexual. If the two of you are committed to making the relationship work, you both need to be honest about your desires, sexual as well as non sexual.
Just a thought.
being in the same situation know how you must feel the question comes how much you love him if you still do then you need to talk to him and sort it out
Where the hell are women who actually want sex? Never turned it down, always had to instigate but never turned it down.
never ever turned my husband down..ever ...he turned me down...lots of women love sex and dont use it as a weapon
Beg to differe, a small minority of women may not use sex as a weapon...intentionally. The vast majority, may as well need a concealed carry permit
Always respect an adversary, always fight as if its to the death, when you dont, you lose.
Sorry, limited frame of reference, but the theory still holds. If I let my guard down, chances are she will tear my heart out again. So, treat all women as a ”threat” and Ill survive
Fulfilling? You people keep using terms like that and happy and well all that other muck. I explained my issue, goody for me it kept piling on, I guess now Im to the point I just want to be verified, that Im not nuts, that at least where Im concerned, women are a valid threat. Hell I can go back to second freakin grade with games and stunts the gender has pulled on me, so can you fault me for my thoughrs and reactions?
One question I haven't heard is how old he is. It could be a medical issue and he is embarassed to talk about it or face it. With all you say you are doing don't ever buy into it that it is you. It is most likely not you! I've been there.
