Never reached an Orgasm

9 Jun 2015

My Partner now tells me that she has never reached an orgasm in her life.. She rarely masturbates and when I asked her why she does it she said she didn't know , but gets bored and stops .

She has had a number of partners but no one has ever got her off.

I love touching her , oral, masturbating her, massage , carressing, and she has never faked it , just telling me to stop , but no climax ... is it my ego that is hurt, possibly , but I love her and want her to experience that deep satisfaction level that comes from orgasm ....

She was really reserved when I met her,and has taken 5 years for her to open up a little, she loves to masturbate me , (She is the best I have ever had at that now ), occasionally she will give me short oral..

I have asked her to guide me , tel me what works for her, but she always just said she wanted hard sex, but when I asked how hard or the kind of style , she didn't know, as her previous lovers and experience was very poor .. (I engaged in the deep hard sex, biting , holding , hair pulling etc , but nothing seems to do it for her)

I did use a small ring vibrator once with her but she was shocked , although she really did lose herself and her pussy was pulsing and so wet and joked after , but when I tried to introduce it again she freaked on me ..

Once we were in the car and she gave me head whilst driving amazing, and then she proceeded to masturbate herself whilst looking at her pussy in the mirror after I suggested it ... She had NEVER looked at her pussy before this ... How can a woman of 52 never have looked at herself before ...

When I first met her, I actually thought she maybe gay, always around women , holidays with them, male relationships never lasted, even travelling to Africa to find someone and experience the "black" thing ... None of this worked. What can I do , I have wined and dined, the candles , the baths, flowers, etc , I am fairly experienced confident , suggesting and always more than open to try things, she did do a playing card list , but when I asked her to then do some of them , she just freaks out ...

All I want to be able to do is have my lady experience the ultimate pleasure, and climax, every woman deserves this, I could just be a self centered male and think what the hell , and let her pleasure me all the time, but I love touching her, but I am gradually feeling our relationship will not go the distance ...

Any other man been in similar circumstances ??

9 Jun 2015

junkit it sounds like you and I have been with women living similar lives. They're about the same age, have both had limited sexual experiences with rather poor lovers. Fortunately in my case my woman while also very inexperienced in masturbation, toys and porn by using alcohol in moderate amounts I've been able to get her to open up to using toys and enjoying porn. Now when I say using toys it's usually me using them on her. I just posted my first story which posted yesterday that you might find helpful. It's called Bringing out naughty Lauren. Now my woman went from never having an orgasm to being a squirter almost every time we have sex. I'd invest in a G-spot glass dildo as that's what got her started. Best of luck mate.
Zona

9 Jun 2015

Have u tried a vibrator that doesn't look so sexual?

Some women are shy when it comes to sex

And to me those tiny vibrators are just not as good as say a the big gun one

I tried a lot then bought the hitachi hand wand

O..m..g..better than the rabbit

But it has a non sexual look..just buy toy cleaner to keep it bacteria free

Other benefit..wow does it dekink bad necks

I personally think it is an emotional problem

If u don't masturbate that says a lot...

Maybe a sex therapist can get to the bottom of this

I suspect something happened..perhaps in the very beginning that has put a block on her pleasure

Hugs and hope u both can solve this

10 Jun 2015

Second vote for the Hitachi Magic wand, quite cheap on ebay and amazing on the clit..OMG! you can just start with a normal massage !

" I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer"
Woody Allen