need advice

24 Jan 2013

Sex with my gf is great and with started trying out new things lately and shes discovered that she enjoys being rimmed. the only problem is I hate doing it, its just not my kind of thing. she likes it even more then having her pussy eaten out! now I love giving her oral, but the rimming thing kinda grosses me out. she rims me and I enjoy it a lot infact she does everything I ask her to do no matter how dirty it is. that's why I feel pressured into rimming her when I don't like it at all. how can I tell her that I don't want to do it anymore without hurting her feelings? what do you think her reaction would be? shes the most amazing person I know and I don't want to hurt her feelings in anyway nor do I want her to think I don't love her enough to rim her. sad

24 Jan 2013

You just need to tell her that you're not into it. It's not a big deal, in my opinion. Many people aren't or can't get beyond what's involved with it. You should just tell her that you don't enjoy it. If she's craving ass-play, she might be fine with you using a heavily-lubed finger on her (moving in and out, rubbing etc) or try a small toy. If you want to keep at it, you can also kind of 'cheat' by using both tongue and a slick finger to vary it up. I think communication is key with sex though, so you shouldn't be afraid of just talking to her about it.

24 Jan 2013

I think you should talk to her and explain your dilemma. Suggest the things DD mentioned. It will be much worse if you dont talk to her and she begins to think you arent concerned with her likes and wants. Maybe when you talk and tell her that it really isnt your thing but you are willing to try for her because her feelings and desires are very important to you. And if you still cant do it after trying, tell her but at least that way she sees that you cared enough to try.

Another idea maybe to shower together and wash each other back there as part of the foreplay and then you will have confidence and know its very clean. As someone who loves receiving it and doing it, especially to women, I think you can get past this if you try. And when you see how much she loves it you will be rewarded Im sure!!

Good Luck

24 Jan 2013

I agree with everything said above.

I hope it all turns out okay.

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