thank you for your answer I will give you more details then. my gf would be shocked if I ask her to do it yes, but I am sure after some time, I could convince her and she would get used to it, to try something new exciting. and when I Imagine it, it is always a masculine black guy with a huge cock, bigger than mine (I am not tiny, but I wouldnt say I am huge either) to fuck her really hard, cum inside her, and then I have to clean her up. and him too, if thats what they want, I d be happy to do it. its nothing gay about it, I never had those desires, its just it turns me on to be ordered what to do, humilliated. thats why I asked if something is wrong with me. Because that kind of humilliation shouldnt turn me on, but I want it , more and more
I would be more concerned about the fact that you feel so negatively about your fantasies - that's more along the lines of self-harm, I think.
If you're troubled, seek therapy. But i would encourage to relax about it and let the stress of it go. Don't flagellate yourself over some sex fantasies, please. If you need an outlet consider writing - or at least bringing in a bit more spice into your sex life even if cuckolding just won't take place. In the future, if you feel comfortable enough, talk to her about it in a serious way.
well yes I guess you are right, it does feel negative mayb, like self harm.. and I am pretty sure most of the therapists if they read this they would say I have serious issue.
But what am I suposse to tell them exactly ? I am afraid its just to deep, trauma and everything. I would have to completely change my mindset, everything I know and believe...
I'll offer a GUY'S perspective here, if I might...
Firstly, you're discussing A FANTASY, something you THINK about but don't REALLY want to try...
PERFECTLY NORMAL. (ALL OF US have fantasies that can make us feel deliciously excited, and then guilty that we think such weird shit. Let me assure you your particular imagining is about a three on the scale of ten... (You don't want to know what TEN is...)
A vibrant and imaginative fantasy inner-life is VITAL to a healthy sexual attitude.
Let's suppose you WANT to take this further with your lover, BUT not so far as to actually do it. Talk to her... Try this:
"You look and feel so gorgeous when we make love, sometimes I imagine watching you with someone else just so I can see the whole thing like I'm just watching you and how beautiful you look..."
(Hinting, but unlikely to get you thrown out of her bed...)
If she's interested enough to ask questions, answer them...
"Oh I dunno... Like this big black dude is taking you and I'm watching you being pleasured by him..."
(If she's not slapping your face now, you've got game...)
So, next step... She sucks on a big black dildo as you fuck her. OR, you fuck her with a big black dildo as she sucks your cock... Use your imagination. PLAY with that scenario... Play it out... "Do you like being taken by that big black dick? I wanna suck your pussy juice off that fat cock..." You get the idea...
So far, so fantasy...
To REALLY go there is more difficult.
Finally, in THE NICEST WAY it makes me smile knowingly, (Oh Yes) as you insist that there is NO GAY ELEMENT WHATEVER to this imagining. There is. Don't worry about it, IT'S A FANTASY!
So far.
But be careful what you wish for...
And good luck.
xx SF
Every single one of us, men and women, have had sexual thoughts that, if SPLASHED ON A BIG SCREEN, would embarrass us so much that we would NEVER AGAIN go outside. *LAUGHS!* That's PERFECTLY NORMAL. Indeed, it's WHY we fantasize.
'THOUGHT CRIME' is not a crime.
Some ideas are better left as a fantasy. Your reaction to some guy boning your girl may not be as pleasing as expected.
I wonder that as a
I always think about sex with a woman or guy. Watching porn and always want to get off
There is nothing wrong with you. Some men aren't the protector, dominant type. You'll love it even more once you let go of your world-taught masculinity and accept who you are.
