Title says it all really, im in love with my chidhood sweetheart, we got together when we both 16 and together until we were 18, i then had to move away so we parted. A good few months later i met someone and we have been together for a year and are engaged. I still speak to my childhood sweetheart and still love him so much so im thinking of leaving my current partner for him and my childhood swetheart is single, and wants me back. We havnt seen eachother about 2 years but not a day goes by when i dont think of him. But, i also love my current partner and cannot stand the thought of breaking his heart, we do argue a lot though and thats worrying. I dont know what to do! I wish i could see one half the week then the other the rest of the week! lol!!
Everything happens for a reason. Live for the moment and have no regrets.
are you happy with your current guy? if so stay with him. theres no guarantee that your childhood sweetheart will stay with you or that you'll have anything more than a brief fling. many people have this idea of getting back with their 1st love but often the reality doesnt live up to the fantasy. really think it over before making your decision, dont let yourself be rushed into making a hasty one
What if your reaction is to dive into the water too? Join them in being shark chum.
As Olivia says, it could be a sense of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence! And comparing a carefree childhood romance with your first adult relationship is putting you under a lot of pressure, especially as you are engaged too, and the added stress that brings.
Maybe you need a bit of time out, away from both of them. A weekend with family or freinds, just having time for you and your feelings, rather than the men in your life.
There is no need to rush such an important decision. It is up to you if you want either guy, or both, or neither.
Two loves can't be in one heart of true lover. If you feel two loves, one of them is lie, or both of them are lie
If only there was a way to have both.
I'd have to say save the fantasy and keep your current love. Be in the here and now.
thankyou for all your posts, and olivia if i was in the boat situation i really wouldnt know who to choosE!!!
Everything happens for a reason. Live for the moment and have no regrets.
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like the song says listen to your heart it will often lead you in the best direction.
1526 I am much older and more experience in life.
I did not read ifyou are living with your current man. If you have made that step and are still not sure. Then may I suggest that you take a step back and live on your own where you can better evaluate what is in your heart.
All I have to say is wow double Standards, ''you got to love it''
I became the odd man out in such a scenario many years ago. A girl thought she was over an ex-bf (high school sweetheart) and was falling in love with me (and I with her). Out of the blue, her ex proposed marriage to her and being with him would require following him in his military career. She accepted and left my life. Even though we hadn't been intimate yet, that broke my heart more than any other love lost. In the decades since then, I've always wanted to hear from her. What I've always wanted to hear was that she has had a good life with him and that she has not regretted her choice. I recently used a combination of Facebook and Linked-in to learn that they are still together. I can only hope that's good news for her, but I think it is. I've found love with another woman that I feel was a better match emotionally. I now feel as if I dodged a bullet.
So, if you can't decide between the two of them now, picture yourself, as best you can, as far into the future as you can, and see who is with you in the picture.
love what 1ball said..there is a reason why things dont work out...if you look really hard at what broke you up...there will be the answer..go forward sweet lady...not back.
It's easy to remember the good parts of a past love, and maybe forget the not so good parts. But it does seem like you left only due to moving away, and that it was not all that long ago. And the new guy was met while you were still possibly getting over the first guy. The new relationship seems to be having some issues. Maybe you got engaged just because you felt like you did not want to leave another love? Could part of the problems you are now having be because you have never really given up the first guy? My best advice would be to take a break from both of them for awhile (more than just a few days). When you find yourself missing or thinking of one much more than the other, you will have your answer.
