First off I'd like a disclaimer that yes I want peoples input/advice, but PLZ reign in the hate please, I don't need to be called an idiot or the girl a slut etc.
Now that that's out of the way here's my issue. For what ever reason I started a relationship with this girl and it was non-exclusive. Initially it was fine, we chatted had fun (no I wasn't getting laid) and now things have gotten more serious, we talk even more, help each other when something is wrong, cried, tell each other I love you regularly its great. But there's another guy involved... I've brought it up, what would you need from me to make us exclusive and she says she doesn't know, that he's her bf too and she loves him. Thing is he's also emotionally abusive and an ass despite the fact that he's a muscled pretty boy. If there's something I left out let me know but how do I get her to be with Me without giving an ultimatum?
First off it needs to be her decision, all you can do is be there for her and show her what it would be like with you, shower her the support and such you give her. Nobody but her can make the decision to leave him, from what you said she's basically not ready yet. If you give her an ultimatum there is a chance you would lose her. From what i can tell she hasn't hit the wall yet the one that says i need to leave.
You also need to make a choice, do you stick around and be there for her and hope or do you need to leave. You also need to do what is right for you, if that's staying or if that's leaving.
Good Luck!
No one can make you jealous, angry, vengeful, or greedy -unless you let him.
- Napoleon Hill
I put it in both for a reason to get the feedback as this is a bit of a pressing issue. It applies to both catagories since I'd like the female opinion in particular
can u be with a girl who does not want an exclusive realtionship?
and are u willing to leave if she will not give him up?
it is not up to her..but to you...and what YOU want..
