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Or we can look at it from other perspective and say humans are bisexual to start with and not heterosexual as most people think, and there then is possible choice in preferences.
I was curious for many years. I was friends with and fell in love with a woman. We were together for four years. I WAS bisexual. When it ended, I made the choice not to be with women anymore. I had several opportunities to do so over the years, and choseto turn them all down. I don't even see women in a sexual way anymore. It's been fifteen years now, and I have never once regretted my choice. I don't feel I am lying to myself, or missing out on anything. People do have a choice, in every decision they make every single day. Some people call it free will, or self control. Either way, we live with the choices we make. Some people just like to claim they have no personal responsibility for their life choices. For example, no one forces anyone to drink or do drugs. People choose to do so. They choose to keep doing it, until they become addicted. Now, society calls addiction a disease, like drug addicts and alcoholics never had a choice. It's a lie that makes them feel better about their own bad choices, and it's now politically correct to feel sorry for them and make excuses for their behavior. The truth is...they made the choice.
The concept that we are born one way sexually isn't even scientifically sound. Take identical twins for example. They are genetically and biologically identical in every way except their finger prints. If one is gay or lesbian or bi, (and really are born that way the way so many believe they are), then it would stand to reason that the other twin would automatically be homosexual as well, since they are genetically identical. Often that is NOT the case. It's actually rare for both sets of twins to both be homosexual. Several studies have been done on this.
Psychologically, a child's sexual map (How they view sexual relationships and desires) doesn't even begin to develop until well after birth, usually between the ages of 3-6 years old. This is the age when children begin to realize the sexual behaviors of their parents, the relationship they see in their parents and pretend play gender roles, play house etc. It isn't until right around puberty 8-13 years old that most children even begin awaken sexually and begin to see their peers in a sexual manner. No one is born anything. That is a lie that society has chosen to believe, simply to make unconventional lifestyle choices easier for the masses to accept.
Ideas about sexual desire are so bound up with misconceptions about gender and with the presumption that heterosexuality is nature’s default, that science has yet to approach this subject in an objective way. There is a claim that there is genetic proof of a homosexual gene, yet no one even bothers to look for the gene for heterosexuality. No one looks for a genetic link for masturbation or oral sex, or BDSM, or the desire to use sex toys. Because there isn't one. People choose to perform those sex acts, or not. Why should any logical person with common sense believe that homosexuals are the only people group who have absolutely no choice in how they behave sexually?
Lots of adults worry that if we allow little boys to wear princess dresses and paint their nails with polish, or play with dolls, they might later be more inclined to be gay. Even some liberal parents (including gay and lesbian parents) worry that if they introduce their child to “too much” in the way of homosexual material, this could be a way of “pushing” homosexuality on them. Similarly, many people worry that if young women are introduced to feminism in college, and if they become too angry or independent, they may just decide to be lesbians. But if we all really believed that sexual orientation was congenital—or present at birth—then no one would ever worry that social influences could have an effect on our sexual orientation. Several social, cultural, and psychological factors can shape our embodied desires and erotic possibilities. But I think that in reality, we all know that sexual desire is deeply subject to social, cultural, and historical forces. If the world today were a different place, a place where homosexuality was culturally normative (like, say, Ancient Greece), we would see far more people embracing their homosexual desires. And if this were the case, it would have nothing to do with genetics.
The concept of “sexual orientation” is itself less than 150 years old, and almost equally recent is the notion that people should partner based on romantic attraction. Most of what feels so natural and unchangeable about our desires—including the bodies and personalities we are attracted to—is conditioned by our respective cultures. The majority of straight American men, for instance, will tell you that they have a strong, visceral aversion to women with bushy armpit hair. But this aversion, no matter how deep it may now run in men’s psyches and no matter how nonnegotiable it may feel, is hardly genetic. Up until the last century, the entire world’s female population had armpit hair, and somehow, heterosexual sex survived.
Just because is politically strategic to claim that people are born one way sexually, doesn't make it true. In 2012, the extent to which gay biology had become a political imperative came into full view when actress Cynthia Nixon, after commenting to a New York Times Magazine reporter that she “chose” to pursue a lesbian relationship after many years as a content heterosexual, was met with outrage by lesbian and gay activists. Under considerable pressure from lesbian and gay advocacy groups, Nixon recanted her statement a few weeks later, stating instead that she must have been born with bisexual potential. She only said this under extreme duress because gay and lesbian activists harassed her. Because she made A CHOICE that went against their agenda. They couldn't accept that she was BORN heterosexual and CHOSE to be lesbian for a while. It goes against what they want the rest of us to believe. But people are constantly changing, all the time. For whatever reason they want. Some people even choose to change. On purpose. Just because they want to.
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DPW has a history of trying to start an arguments with me, simply because I didn't word something exactly how HE personally agreed with. He can't resist informing me about how wrong I am about my own personal life, even though he is a complete stranger to me. Anyone who has a different opinion than him, especially a woman, is just automatically wrong. He has a history of doing this to women all over the forums.
In conversation, Narcissist's think they are an expert at everything, no matter how important or unimportant the subject, and their opinion is law. No one else’s opinions, thoughts or feelings matter, because a narcissist has to be “right” all the time. If you dare to contradict them with intellectual arguments, logic, or legitimate sources they become furious. They can’t handle that someone doesn't agree with their opinions because they won’t get that burst of satisfaction to their inflated sense of self-importance and ego. They have to hear “you’re right”, and they will badger you until you give in out of sheer exhaustion and exasperation. When you do, they see this as validation they were seeking, and in their mind they have “won” the argument, which strokes their massive ego.
but I don't resent them nor do I judge them. We all fight with tools and knowledge we have and this topic is delicate and people have difficulties to wrap their mind around it, which is understandable because we were taught to think differently for centuries. I don't judge them, it is understandable. 
