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valveman
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I am happily married for 43 years and had a good sex life, until I had my prostrate remove which left me impotent, we have used muse and injections which help to increase erections but not enough to have a full sex life.The only way to increase my libido and adrenalin rush is to play fantasy role playing situation which I like being spanked and dress up in ladies underwear.My wife is very understanding about my situation and fantasy and participate to the best of abilities but is just to nice a person to be really dominating and be bad to me.I am happy to be nice to her in any way she wants to ensure she enjoys our love periods as much as possible without full penetration. Can you please advise any things we can try to keep our sex life going?
Olivia
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I am happily married for 43 years and had a good sex life, until I had my prostrate remove which left me impotent, we have used muse and injections which help to increase erections but not enough to have a full sex life.The only way to increase my libido and adrenalin rush is to play fantasy role playing situation which I like being spanked and dress up in ladies underwear.My wife is very understanding about my situation and fantasy and participate to the best of abilities but is just to nice a person to be really dominating and be bad to me.I am happy to be nice to her in any way she wants to ensure she enjoys our love periods as much as possible without full penetration. Can you please advise any things we can try to keep our sex life going?


Hi!

I'm sorry to hear about your recent medical changes, but I'm glad to hear that you've pulled through and are making the best of it.

In regards to your question, there are so many ways to spice up your sex life.

There are toys. There's role playing (besides the scenario you've described). There are fun games you can play. The possibilities are endless.

A great way to gauge something that might be a turn-on is to watch porn together. If you see something that gets you going, make a note of it and give it a try. You'd be amazed at the results.

As always, I wish you all the best!

~Yours truly
Luche
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Valve 65,

I don't know where you're from, but my husband has the same problem, except it's due to low testosterone levels in the blood. I was a hormone clinic charge nurse for many years. I tell ya, the easiest route to fix it? Go get some bio-identical hormone replacement. Usually initial consultations are free and they will take your blood, weight, etc. Then they will re-schedule you or either call you and tell you tom come in because their testosterone levels are low. Any testosterone level below 200 is crappy, regardless of age. My husband was 32 and his testosterone level was 132!!! There is help you there. Just make sure to look up "BIO-IDENTICAL HORMONE REPLACEMENT".

Hope this helps.
Guest
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Mis-understood your post!!! *APOLOGIES!!!*

Well, and I'm serious, my LESBIAN friends here don't need a HARD DICK to enjoy great, loving, passionate sex!!!

(As long as your partner is OKAY with what you need, AND AS LONG AS YOU MAKE IT INVOLVING AND SENSUAL FOR HER TOO, you'll work it out... Because THAT'S important... You CAN do something, "just because they like it" but it's better if you find a way to involve and PLEASURE both participants...)

And to put, (perhaps) your mind at rest, I have FETISHES that, while I may have ALLUDED to them here, I wouldn't necessarily go into great detail about with EVERYONE!!!

You'll find this is a VERY OPEN and HONEST place, (for the most part...) to SEEK and indeed OFFER your thoughts... (?)

Best of luck. (At least your still INTERESTED!!!)

xx SF
ChuckEPoo
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See your urologist. Hormone therapy is an option. In fact with your situation it's a must. If you still can't maintain an erection the doctor can prescribe a product called Tri-mix. It could give an erection to a dead man.