Thank you, I didn’t take anything you said offensively. My own writing has helped, maybe one of these days I’ll let him read it. I’m not sure I *truly* know exactly what I want, I just know what I feel, and what theoretically sounds good. What turns me on in my mind, and what I do is myself wishing for. I’m willing to accept whatever he chooses to give me, or is able to. Thank you again and happy new year to you!
I have been married 15 years this month. Our sex life has grown and evolved along with us. We got married when I was 19 and he was 22. I know now, I am a submissive but without anyone to wield that power over me. Occasionally I get “rough” sex. But I crave him stepping into this role, I want him calling the shots, I want to be punished, I want him to not only be my lover and partner but master and commander as well. I’ve shared this with him a while ago, and while our sex life is really and truly good, I’m left feeling like there is just a little something missing. But he doesn’t. He chalks it up to me being in my prime and him not, and he likes things the way they are. He loves and cherishes me, he supports me and everything else in our life right now is good. But he rarely takes a super active role in our sex life. I give a lot, I don’t necessarily get the same amount of attention in return.
Other than talking to him again and hoping for the best, what else can I do? What would you do?
