Thanks a lot everyone for replying. I sent a message to her this morning explaining my situation and she was ridiculously cool with it
Her original response was a 5 text reply before I had even replied to the first one starting with "okay I understand... what can I do to change?" ending with "do you think we should break up
The reason she said that was she thought that might be what I wanted, and she thought that might be best for me "I just don't want to make you unhappy"
I didn't flat out ask her to send me nude photos now as that's not what I want, I explained that I wanted her to come off a bit more like a gf rather than a sister. Not all the time, just an occasional show of affection or flirtation "i do love you and if that's whats best for you then id do it"
Finally the conversation ended with "please do tell me things" "il make that change and promise to be okay with it"
She's seemed happy since and I'm just pleased to have the weight off me. For her it was hearing it for the first time, whereas I've had 6 days to stress over it.
Thanks again everyone for helping, I think I'll find it easier to concentrate on my exams and I'm not straight pressuring her into sexting or anything crazy, just give me reminder that the person I wake up and text every morning till when I go to bed thinks of me more than just a friend!
Me (22) and my girlfriend (21) have been going out for 4 years now, before that we knew each other and we were pretty much best friends. About 7 months into the relationship I started university about 130 miles away. The first year I was pretty upset, uni life wasn't how I thought it would be and I was pretty damn depressed I'd left a good life to go live away from home etc. But my gf was always there to help me out, we spoke all the time, texted, called skyped, the works. Also she'd do everything to keep me happy, we'd sext a lot, webcam each other, if I wanted something she really was there to help. Although the 7 months were hard, we made it through, seeing each other about once every 3 weeks. Then back during the holidays we were back to seeing each other loads and everything was fine.
The second year things got harder, she went off to uni as well, this time round she was only about 100 miles away, we still saw each other about once every 3 weeks, we still talked a lot but she became her own person, as did I, I found friends I had interests with, she was no longer living at home and had less time. During this year instead of sexting, she'd send me semi-nudes and I still was happy. The year ended and once again we had a lot of fun during the times we weren't at uni.
The third year, the semi-nude photo's pretty much seized and she would decline sexting less and less, this lead to arguments, and I brought up on a few occasions how the first year had been so fun, she had been up for trying a lot of things, she seemed pretty horny herself and she rarely ever said no too stuff.
Now we are in the fourth and both of our final years (so from an educational stand point things are the hardest they will ever be) we still see each other. But she is not willing to sext at all infact she's said if we argue once more about it she's out (of the relationship). I never complain or say anything bad about her because I haven't ever got anything really bad to say. In the past she's told me off for keeping stuff in and not saying what's on my mind. But this is really bothering me now, we're a little over 50% of the way through and coming back from the Christmas break hasn't been good at all.
In the recent arguments she's said she's always hated sexting and all that, she was afraid to lose me when we first started going out, she doesn't want me to be upset and will try to be more open when we're face to face. But my problem currently isn't the face to face thing, something is still better than nothing, I'd like her to try new things or do the things we used to but right now that's the bottom of my concerns.
The fact she is no longer willing to sext or say anything sexual at all is hurting the way I feel. I am self doubting myself, currently have a major loss in self confidence and I'm starting to constantly feel down.
I was sent here by a really good friend, who helped me through a lot of this, but as it gets more annoying the friends been busy, and whether it's because of the self doubt I feel that person doesn't want to hear from me, and besides she's done more than enough to help me for one life time. I owe them a tonne anyway.
I don't want to pressure her into something she doesn't want to do, I don't want to hold things in, I don't want to lose her, I want a relationship whereby I can try everything.
Thanks a lot for listening
Hey everyone, I'm new here so I probably won't know many people/anyone. If you wanna call me DB for short that's cool.
So basically a big reason I joined the site was too I write story's with the aim for feedback to be good enough so that my girlfriend is curious to read it, so on that note what encourages you to give feedback, comment, vote on stories? Do you read stories and not rate them cause there bad?
What's your regular feedback process?