I guess I'm not sure how to ask this. I haven't had a lot of sex partners ... three to be exact, and most of my sex was with my first boyfriend over three years. The second was a one night stand revenge fuck after we broke up. and now the third is my current boyfriend. Now my boyfriend is bringing up wanting to do some things with me, like a threesome and other things, and though I have fantasized about such things, I'm not sure how to approach it in reality. I guess I want to know how to get over my inhibitions about having sex with someone I'm not with. We had an opportunoty with a friend of my partner, but I chickened out. Any suggestions will be helpful.
Communication is really the key. Talk, then talk some more.
Thank you both for the advice. We have talked a lot about it the last couple days and I know and an comfortable with the second guy, and it is something that I have fantasized about but I guess having the opportunity to actually do it is a bit daunting. I think I will do it and we are planning on tomorrow night as everyone will have time off work. Yes, I want to do it. I'm not being pressured. It's just something new and exciting and I tend to get anxious.
Good luck! Remember you are in control, go at your speed. It's your show, the guys are there for your pleasure and entertainment. Enjoy!
There was a bit of a schedule change so it didn't happen yet, but I think I'm getting more turned on by the idea now though.
You're going to regret it.
You're not really into this for real. It shouldn't be this tough of a choice.
More often than not you will regret the things in life you don't do more than you will regret the things you do do.
Don't dwell on the negative. We can talk ourselves out of most anything if we try and think of everything that could possibly go wrong. I'm telling you that it most likely be more fun than your best birthday party ever, if you can just go into it expecting a fun time! With wine in hand, watch a little threesome porn when you have some free time. Allow yourself the freedom to consider how much fun the filmed people are having. Close your eyes and smile for your own enjoyment. We are here to help guide you around any thorns, so you can enjoy the beautiful, fragrant roses.
The only things you will regret are the things you don't try, and even then you will regret some of what you try.
Have a solid relationship before you try a threesome, what would he do if you wanted it to be a FFM rather then some guy he knows.
Obviously communication is the key. Understand things well. Read up on things. Ask your boyfriend. If possible also chat with friends and others who may have had experiences of a threesome and other such things. But, what I can say, even from personal experience is that stretching your boundaries and doing newer things always helps and is good. One can't stay in the cradle for ever. And at some point, you would have had enough of reading and understanding and would want to do the real thing. If my experience is any indication, you will not regret it at all. You will enjoy it. It will give you a sense of liberation and exhilaration. Your boyfriend would be happy that his girlfriend is liberated and forward looking. And soon you would be planning your next rendezvous. I am sure and hope things go well. All the best.
Did you go forward with it? How it it work out? My thinking is that you never know what you might enjoy until you give it a shot. No reason not to Push Your Comfort Zone as long as you feel comfortable pulling back if you discover it's not working for you. Be honest and be open. It's okay if it turns out one thing or another doesn't interest you, but don't let that be the only time you try something different. Life is full of opportunities, sometimes you need to dive in to explore them.