There's this girl at my college we were friends in highschool I am deeply in love her but don't know what to do should I tell her or hide my feelings
OMG, you absolutely have to tell her silly boy! Pick just the right moment and place and go for it. Life is to short to be filled with memories of "what if."
are you guys dating? cause 'i love you" is a big deal and if she has no idea how you feel maybe you should start small.
Do not tell her that you're 'deeply in love with her' - that is wayyyyy too intense and only works if you're in the final 20 minutes of a Hollywood rom-com.... Start with telling her that you're into her and see if she wants to hang out together sometime or go on a real date.
If you are in the friend-zone and have been harbouring these feelings and she's never given you any indication that she has those feelings for you back, then this may be more of an exercise in just putting it out there so you don't have regrets in life. Girls are pretty good on picking up on subtleties when it comes to guys (mainly because guys usually aren't very subtle in the first place)... chances are good that she already knows that you're crushing on her. She may value your friendship but may not be into you on that level - if she's says no - just reassure her about the friendship and be chill about it. No pressure.
Id be careful about that. Unless you are sure she feels the same way you are setting yourself up for a major let down and a very awkward situation going forward. If you value her friendship, I would ask her out on a date and see where that leads. If after a while, she seems into you, then maybe its time to take the risk and let her know how you feel.
Now if you dont care if you lose her as a friend and would rather not be around her if you wont have more than a friendly relationship, then go for it. Good Luck either way.
It is something like asking for a date or a dance, but with 1000 times more intense. She may not have any feeling like that for you.
If you do not tell her there is risk also. If she is this wonderful girl you say she is somebody else will see the same qualities.
There risk if you do and there is risk if you don't.
But think of this what if you tell her and she throws her arms around you and say "I thought I would never hear that from you.!
Would that make the risk worthwhile.?
You were friends in highschool? What's this 'were' business flyboy? Re-kindle that friendship!! Do you remember when we... blah blah blah. Re-connect with her. Spend time with her. That lets her know that you like her. If that's working - i.e. that you can comfortably spend time with her and she doesn't try to escape, suggest doing something together, either as part of a group or together. Make it an activity that she will enjoy. Just push things along gently, let them develop. Don't tell her that you're 'in love' with her as you'd be taking a massive risk. That's way too fast, way too much pressure. You already know her - just go and talk to her. But don't be cool and reserved, if she gives the slightest hint about wanting to do anything make sure you take it. Oh - and treat her well in front of everyone - and treat her better behind her back.
Well thanks taking chances have always been hard for me with this girl she's the type that lights the fire in my gut every time I see her
I wouldn't say hide your feelings, but hold them back. You're only deeply in love with an ideal of her. If you confess your love to her and she deposits you in the friend zone, you'll find out the difference. Invite her someplace where you want to be. If she's interested in being with you, she'll go. If she doesn't go, look elsewhere unless she makes a positive move toward you.
You should tell her that you like her alot. You sound like you are just friends right now but you want more. However waiting is dangerous don't be afraid to take a risk. You can lose the love of your life that way. Don't be afraid to fight for her love isn't easy it's a war sometimes. So take a risk!
Tell Her. I didn't tell a guy how I felt and have regretted it my entire life.
can u take it if she....feels less than you???
i have to agree with doll....
are u dating her?
or is this love from afar?
u only get 1 chance to tell someone u love them for the first time
make it good...good luck sweetie